Nephew got marrid out of state and no one went

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you upset, or is your nephew upset?

Don't project your feelings onto him if he is perfectly content. My cousin got married at Disneyland with only immediate family in attendance. He wanted that. He got that. We respected his wishes.

I am surprised but not upset. I think nephew felt the same way. It just turned out to be a tough weekend for people to attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's sad. Most family will travel for weddings. We're attending 4 this summer, all a plane ride away.

Op here. I agree it is sad. But I think that is just how it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Nephew got married out of state, far for everyone. It is where the bide is from and where groom now lives. Plane ride for everyone and then 1.5 hours from airport to town where wedding is being held. Grooms side of the family had only immediate family. Groom's family has large extended family. His mom and dad have 8-9 sibling altogether. Approximately 15-20 cousins. So extended family of about 35. One person attended. Some could not afford it. A few coach a spring sport. One family had a conflict with a cousin's performance and so that family was commited to that event. One cousin ran in a relay race.

I guess this is just how it goes when family is all over. And does not really priortize each other.

Our family is all over and most still make it to weddings. Our wedding was in Washington VA and Aunts, Uncles and cousins came from Minn, Ind, NC, MA, Germany, friend came from Wash, Ore, New England........ However, our family is much smaller and wedding are few and far between. When there is a large family, there are too many weddings to attend everyone if they are far away.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nephew got married out of state, far for everyone. It is where the bide is from and where groom now lives. Plane ride for everyone and then 1.5 hours from airport to town where wedding is being held. Grooms side of the family had only immediate family. Groom's family has large extended family. His mom and dad have 8-9 sibling altogether. Approximately 15-20 cousins. So extended family of about 35. One person attended. Some could not afford it. A few coach a spring sport. One family had a conflict with a cousin's performance and so that family was commited to that event. One cousin ran in a relay race.

I guess this is just how it goes when family is all over. And does not really priortize each other.

Our family is all over and most still make it to weddings. Our wedding was in Washington VA and Aunts, Uncles and cousins came from Minn, Ind, NC, MA, Germany, friend came from Wash, Ore, New England........ However, our family is much smaller and wedding are few and far between. When there is a large family, there are too many weddings to attend everyone if they are far away.


I really should not have said" do not prioritize". The truth is there will another wedding next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's sad. Most family will travel for weddings. We're attending 4 this summer, all a plane ride away.

Most of whose family? How nice that you can afford to pay for at least 4 plane tickets and have the vacation time to attend. Bravo.

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I have two cousins getting married in California next year. One in April, one in early June. As a teacher, it is nearly impossible to take time off during the school year, so if we go it will be a 3 day weekend.

Plane tickets from DC to home are generally $4-500 each, plus incidentals along the way...so for 2 weddings, our family is looking at 30 hours of travel and $3000.

I love both my cousins dearly, but that's just not in the cards. I wish so much that it was...but I'm going to have to pick one or the other, and it's going to come across as playing favorites. I really hope none of the family members are judging us for the choices we are making!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two cousins getting married in California next year. One in April, one in early June. As a teacher, it is nearly impossible to take time off during the school year, so if we go it will be a 3 day weekend.

Plane tickets from DC to home are generally $4-500 each, plus incidentals along the way...so for 2 weddings, our family is looking at 30 hours of travel and $3000.

I love both my cousins dearly, but that's just not in the cards. I wish so much that it was...but I'm going to have to pick one or the other, and it's going to come across as playing favorites. I really hope none of the family members are judging us for the choices we are making!

I am OP. I am not judging just lamenting how thie cards fell for this wedding.

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I got married 18 years ago and truly didn't know fully 1/2 of the guests who attended our wedding and reception.

I wish these total strangers didn't attend my wedding.

That said, if the bride and groom don't care, neither should you.

Send a card and a a nice check and be done.

[Anonymous]

Yep. We got married here in DC and my whole family and all my college and childhood friends live on the West Coast. We didn't have "sides" at the church because of it -- it would have been awkward to see my side almost empty and his overflowing (he comes from a big family; I do not). I estimate the ration of guests at our small, <100 guest wedding was 3-1 groom-bride. That's what happens when you marry far from home.