husband won't introduce me to his friends wife's

[Anonymous]

If his religious/cultural/what have you beliefs dictate not mixing men and women socially, I think that's something you need to respect. You married him knowing he held these beliefs, and it's not fair to ask him to throw them aside because they're now inconvenient for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it his responsibility to introduce you to his friends' wives so you have friends? Make your own friends. Join more groups. Get out there and make a life for yourself.

This was my reaction as well. My spouse and I have our own friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it his responsibility to introduce you to his friends' wives so you have friends? Make your own friends. Join more groups. Get out there and make a life for yourself.

This was my reaction as well. My spouse and I have our own friends.

Because I work from home and am new to the area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If his religious/cultural/what have you beliefs dictate not mixing men and women socially, I think that's something you need to respect. You married him knowing he held these beliefs, and it's not fair to ask him to throw them aside because they're now inconvenient for you.

I didn't have a problem making friends in D.C. as it's a big city and I met people at work or groups etc. Athens is very different since everyone is so young here! There's also just less to do and less groups to join. Most of the meetup groups are all for moms . I find it frustrating that he doesn't want to help. He's always been very introverted and this is even more annoying since this place is very isolating. He's perfectly okay with staying indoors all the time.

[Anonymous]

Maybe start a meetup group for women who share your ethnic background? I have to think there are others in the same boat who are constrained by the "no mixing" rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it his responsibility to introduce you to his friends' wives so you have friends? Make your own friends. Join more groups. Get out there and make a life for yourself.

This was my reaction as well. My spouse and I have our own friends.

Because I work from home and am new to the area.

Volunteer. You'll be able to give back to the community and most people that volunteer are nice people that would make good friends.

You could also consider joining an adult-league sports team.

[Anonymous]

Weird. Do not reproduce with this guy.

[Anonymous]

It seems odd that he would refuse when asked. Even in cultures where men and women do not mix, women are introduced to one another. It's at its most basic rather unkind of the husband not to find a way to make the introduction, even by simply passing along her contact info for his friend's wife with an explanation that she works from home but would love to meet her. Placing the burden on her to somehow meet people is flat out mean. Even if she manages to build relationships with other women, this would be hard to forget.

Ascribing this to culture as if well that just covers it seems wrong.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't Athens have a hopping music scene? Would you feel comfortable going to see some shows? Or joining other groups along the lines of the hiking one? I'm surprised there isn't some sort of school group. My grad school had a group for married students so that the spouses could meet each other, meet people, etc., since presumably they moved to my school's city solely for their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Georgia... I'm afraid the only thing to do is convert to the baptist faith and join a church. sorry you live in the US south...

[Anonymous]

Wow, have fun living in Athens with a guy who thinks men and women shouldn't mix and only wants to hang with his international peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:'friend's wives'

No. Friend's wife. Friends' wives.

This. I love when people "correct" grammar only to be incorrect. LOL.

[Anonymous]

'friend's wives'

in some culture, that is grammatically correct!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't Athens have a hopping music scene? Would you feel comfortable going to see some shows? Or joining other groups along the lines of the hiking one? I'm surprised there isn't some sort of school group. My grad school had a group for married students so that the spouses could meet each other, meet people, etc., since presumably they moved to my school's city solely for their spouse.

The hiking group doesn't have much going on unless you want to pay for weekend trips. I'm not really into music scene or night life.

[Anonymous]

Okay, so take the initiative and introduce yourself to his friends' wives. Do all of you women sit at home behind bars while your husbands socialize together? This is the 21st century. If you don't see them in person, maybe get the wives' numbers and give them a call. "Hi I'm Bob's wife, and our husbands work together/are friends, and I just got into town and don't know anyone. Would you like to meet up for a coffee?"