Wives: Do you call your mother-in-law?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Movies and bridge sounds like my MIL. Did your DH say why he wanted you to call? Is she feeling lonely or depressed? Is her health okay?

He just feels that I should. I asked if she said something to him and he said no, I just ought to call her. To be fair, my grandmother is still alive and he initiates calls to her at least once a week. He's a much more sociable person than I am.

He sounds very dutiful. I can see why you'd be reluctant b/c there's really nothing to "chat about." Maybe compromise with DH to call her every two weeks or once a month? Save up some anecdote to relate about your kid. Even if it's a short call and it feels artificial, it won't hurt.

OP here - I have no kid. I'm dealing with infertility and have nothing good to report to her. I'm depressed and I don't want to chit-chat with anyone. Plus I just don't like talking on the phone.

[Anonymous]

Lol, no.

[Anonymous]

Nope. She doesn't speak English and I don't speak Arabic. We get along fabulously.

[Anonymous]

Does your husband call YOUR mom?
I have never called MIL in 18 years of marriage.

[Anonymous]

No I do not call her. In fact I tell DH to pretend I'm not home if she asks to chat with me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No I do not call her. In fact I tell DH to pretend I'm not home if she asks to chat with me

+ 1,000

[Anonymous]

I don't blame you... You should tell your husband to tell his mother just that!

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do. I really like her and have fun talking to her. Plus, DH isn't the best at initiating calls but I know she likes being kept in the loop (plus DH will often join in the call once I initiate).

But it really depends on how you feel about your MIL and whether you guys have anything to talk about.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not. I don't like to just chat on the phone. If I did I'd be calling my own mother.

[Anonymous]

No. That's my husband's job. All communication like calling, emails and holiday cards for MIL is done by DH. He does his mom, I do mine. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Also want to add that, I am so glad that I have a daughter.

[Anonymous]

My mom calls DW often. DW gets along with my mom better than I do.

[Anonymous]

That is totally DH's job--as is arranging logisrics for any trip or visit, which he is not always good at, but darned if I am going to be in charge.

[Anonymous]

Almost never. And never to chat.

[Anonymous]

Never. If I have an actual question I email or text. I'll call for her bday. I don't even call my own mother weekly, just as needed, and we are pretty close.