Asking a spouse to do something

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[Post New]04/30/2015 09:50
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Anonymous wrote:I think the context matters. Is he saying "I need you to take care of dinner tomorrow, because I'll be home late" which is rude or is he saying "I need you to sign off on the car insurance policy we just renewed. It's not in effect until you do" which is an honest statement/request/reminder. He needs you to do your part in order to care for the family/household/marriage, etc.


"He needs me to do my part?" That sounds like she would be part of his project and not an equal partner. We may all "need" our spouses to do their part but stating it that way is an odd way of looking at it.
[Post New]04/30/2015 09:53
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Anonymous
Why don't you do the same thing to your DS? Sometimes people don't realize how it sounds until they are on the receiving end.
[Post New]04/30/2015 10:00
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Anonymous
how about responding: "I need you to rephrase that statement as a polite question."
[Post New]04/30/2015 10:01
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Why don't you do the same thing to your DS? Sometimes people don't realize how it sounds until they are on the receiving end.


Other PPs voted no on this approach.
[Post New]04/30/2015 10:02
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:how about responding: "I need you to rephrase that statement as a polite question."


Would that make most people mad to say it that way?
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