WWYD - family drama and I don't want to be involved.

[Anonymous]

It's YOUR party, YOU invite whomever YOU want. If one has a problem with another, they should decide whether they go or not.

I can't stand my SIL yet I swallow my dislike and am cordial to her at family functions. Let the drama be on the one with the personal problem.

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to avoid the discomfort of having to be firm with Aunt #1 if she continues to pressure you. Let her know that everybody is invited and you look forward to seeing her there and if she continues her electronic tirade, then stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

You've already done the invites. Ignore any further similar emails from aunt #1. As a PP said she will have to go back and re-read.

I've had to tell MIL on more than one occasion that I'm not interested in whatever is going on at that time.

[Anonymous]

You sent her an email, she sent a 2nd as if she hadn't read your response. Forward her the first email you sent. If she responds a third ignoring, forward it to her again. Beyond that I wouldn't waste any further effort and I would ignore the whole situation and focus on your event and those who are attending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"We don't feel comfortable getting in the middle of what's going on with you and Aunt 2. We are inviting everyone, and understand if you chose not to join us."

+1 Let her know that you will be inviting them both, and then the decision is back on your aunt, where it should remain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"We don't feel comfortable getting in the middle of what's going on with you and Aunt 2 [and I'm sure you understand and would not want to drag us into it.] We are inviting everyone [and hope to see you there]."

[Anonymous]

Dear aunt gurtude: as it has already been decided that aunt nellies's presence is important to our day, we have invited both of you. While we would hope that any personal differences could be put aside for this event, we do understand your decision not to attend it it makes you unhappy. We will miss yu, but trust that you understand we love y boy, and cannot disclude people due to personal squabbles between the two"

[Anonymous]

Don't engage. Unless there is abuse of some kind, this is not a situation where you need to or should be taking sides. You've already invited both aunts. Now, just stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

"Dear Aunt Lu, As you know I have already sent out the invitations and we are inviting the whole family to celebrate X next month. We certainly hope that everyone can join us but if you are not comfortable attending that is fine.

Take care..."

Then refuse to engage beyond that. Not your fight and obnoxious of your aunt to try to involve you.

[Anonymous]

I would tell your aunt that invitations have already gone out, and while it saddens you to hear that there is discord in the family, you will not be changing your invite list and hope to see her at the celebration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless aunt number two is a child molester, excluding her to please her sister would not be ok.

Aunt #2 is kind, generous, gracious, etc. That's why this is just so unbelievable to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"We don't feel comfortable getting in the middle of what's going on with you and Aunt 2 [and I'm sure you understand and would not want to drag us into it.] We are inviting everyone [and hope to see you there]."

OP here, this is what I wrote to her today. She also called me this morning. I am not going to engage further. Thanks everyone for your input!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"We don't feel comfortable getting in the middle of what's going on with you and Aunt 2 [and I'm sure you understand and would not want to drag us into it.] We are inviting everyone [and hope to see you there]."

OP here, this is what I wrote to her today. She also called me this morning. I am not going to engage further. Thanks everyone for your input!

Well done and I hope you have a great gathering that provides lots of wonderful memories in the future!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless aunt number two is a child molester, excluding her to please her sister would not be ok.

Aunt #2 is kind, generous, gracious, etc. That's why this is just so unbelievable to me.

Sibling rivalry pure and simple. Sounds like the event will more pleasant without Aunty Troublemaker.

[Anonymous]

Update: Aunt #1 said, due to Aunt #2's presence, she will not be attending. Given this behavior, I have to say I'm relieved.