what do you do when you miss your AP ?

[Anonymous]

Call one of the other APs - not as emotionally connected but great sex.

[Anonymous]

My AP is an online porn cam girl, so I long in and see her anytime I want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strategies to get through til your next visit, time together? Love to hear any ideas!

What I do while waiting for AP:
- Hate myself for wanting him so much
- wish I could meet someone else I liked as much as him
- call him (no answer)
- feel immense guilt and shame. Think about how he can't possibly respect me.
- write an unsent letter to his wife in my head, apologizing to her
- think about what my family would think of me if they knew
- tell myself I'm not going to call him today
- remember the last time I saw him. call again (no answer)
- schedule a date with another guy
- read self-help books. Realize I have so many problems that a successful relationship seems impossible.
- wonder why he's so insecure
- think of ways he could fix his relationship with his wife and things he could do that would make her happier
- realize he's a dick for not doing them

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My AP is an online porn cam girl, so I long in and see her anytime I want.

That really shouldn't count as cheating. It's basically just Live Porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My AP is an online porn cam girl, so I long in and see her anytime I want.

That really shouldn't count as cheating. It's basically just Live Porn.

Not sure everyone would agree with you. There is a lot of one-on-one personal interaction involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strategies to get through til your next visit, time together? Love to hear any ideas!

What I do while waiting for AP:
- Hate myself for wanting him so much
- wish I could meet someone else I liked as much as him
- call him (no answer)
- feel immense guilt and shame. Think about how he can't possibly respect me.
- write an unsent letter to his wife in my head, apologizing to her
- think about what my family would think of me if they knew
- tell myself I'm not going to call him today
- remember the last time I saw him. call again (no answer)
- schedule a date with another guy
- read self-help books. Realize I have so many problems that a successful relationship seems impossible.
- wonder why he's so insecure
- think of ways he could fix his relationship with his wife and things he could do that would make her happier
- realize he's a dick for not doing them

+1

jesus, you need some serious help and a book alone is certainly not going to help. seek a good therapist

[Anonymous]

I miss her so much - it's been a long two weeks. She'll be back next week.

[Anonymous]

It's par for the course that you will not be able to see your "Affair Partner" on a regular basis.

So just learn to live with it and accept it as part of the set-up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's par for the course that you will not be able to see your "Affair Partner" on a regular basis.

So just learn to live with it and accept it as part of the set-up.

I see mine 3 times a week. That's not everyone's relationship. Sometimes when I miss him I drive past his house hoping to catch a glimpse of him. He's gorgeous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner.

Oh! Well then this is an easy question to answer, OP. You sit around and hate yourself and wonder if you're always going to be the type of loser who dates married men!!

Your assumption that the OP is a woman is stereotypical and your labeling telling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's par for the course that you will not be able to see your "Affair Partner" on a regular basis.

So just learn to live with it and accept it as part of the set-up.

I see mine 3 times a week. That's not everyone's relationship. Sometimes when I miss him I drive past his house hoping to catch a glimpse of him. He's gorgeous.

Are you saying that you see him three times a week because you drive by and stalk him?

[Anonymous]

It's not stalking because I don't say anything to him... or his wife.
he takes me out or we have sex 3 times a week. I stop by once or twice a week when I am lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not stalking because I don't say anything to him... or his wife.
he takes me out or we have sex 3 times a week. I stop by once or twice a week when I am lonely.

This is the saddest thing I've read today.

[Anonymous]

Go read about the starving kids in Africa.

[Anonymous]

I have not seen her for a year ago. We broke up when my wife found out. We went to counseling and tried to work on our marriage, but the same issues exist, lack of sex, intimacy, etc . Did not work. I am going to try to get my AP back.