S/O Estate Problems (that aren't really problems, maybe?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:22, do you not budget jointly with your spouse? I don't see how the financial downside of this is only a problem for OP's DH -- if he is asked/required to pay for things, that money comes out of OP's pocket as well, assuming she and her DH pool their funds.

+1. OP and her DH are a team, as they should be. It is a problem for both.

I think the solution would be to tell in laws that you'd rather have cash or something similar left for you in the will (furniture, jewelry, extra cash). It's not fair to be left a vacation home you don't want.

Jesus. I don't think you understand the nature of gifts.

It is fine to say that you don't want to be part of the house, but not to start demanding something else in exchange. Try to be gracious about it.