Do you tell the parents (even if you do not know them or their kid)...

[Anonymous]

I think sending a letter is a nice thing to do. Sign it or don't sign it. They should know.

[Anonymous]

A kid in my neighborhood had a party when the parents were out of town and about five neighbors had texted the parents while the party was still going on!

[Anonymous]

If there were 75 kids at their house last night they know already or will soon find out.

[Anonymous]

I don't tell other parents anything anymore. I did a few times, and it never ended well.

A suicide threat would be my only exception. Other than that, I MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they KNEW their kids was going to have a party.

[Anonymous]

OP here - and I think I should probably say nothing. If I knew the parents it would be a different story -- I would tell them in a heartbeat.

Thanks for the advice.

[Anonymous]

Obviously. I am shocked at the number of supposed "parents" who are sitting there and saying to mind your business. This is your business: their kid threw a party. Your kid was at said party, was given alcohol (which is illegal) and pot(also illegal, even if the potheads up in our government now wish that wasn't the case), this has affected your child, and so to let this continue would be to ensure a location for juvenile delinquency continues to run as a party house.

If you don't report it, you will be supporting a public nuisense. If I was in your position, I would have called the cops immediately upon learning about this party, and immediately afterwards been talking to the "parents" that seem to think their kid is mature enough to stay home alone when they clearly just want to drink and get high.

If the situation was flipped, would you want to be notified? I would, certainly. It would be rough, but I would need to know, and I would even say that not reporting it is child neglect. Because should this been my teenage son throwing the party, you bet your ass I would want to know so I knew to put him into rehab for alcohol/drug addiction, and give him the severe punishment needed to help reform delinquents.

[Anonymous]

It depends on why I knew about the party I guess. Was it affecting me, my home, my child? Was I pretty sure that I had my facts straight? Where did those facts come from?

If I was pretty darned sure that I had the facts straight and it was in some way my business - yes. Would I pass along gossip? No, probably not.

[Anonymous]

My nosey neighbor told my mom I had "lots" of friends over while they were out of town. They said, oh, that's good she wasn't alone. I was a very responsible teen. Nothing was broken, and there was no alcohol involved.

Unless you feel they may have hurt your property somehow, or it was too noisey late into the night, I would stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. I am shocked at the number of supposed "parents" who are sitting there and saying to mind your business. This is your business: their kid threw a party. Your kid was at said party, was given alcohol (which is illegal) and pot(also illegal, even if the potheads up in our government now wish that wasn't the case), this has affected your child, and so to let this continue would be to ensure a location for juvenile delinquency continues to run as a party house.

If you don't report it, you will be supporting a public nuisense. If I was in your position, I would have called the cops immediately upon learning about this party, and immediately afterwards been talking to the "parents" that seem to think their kid is mature enough to stay home alone when they clearly just want to drink and get high.

If the situation was flipped, would you want to be notified? I would, certainly. It would be rough, but I would need to know, and I would even say that not reporting it is child neglect. Because should this been my teenage son throwing the party, you bet your ass I would want to know so I knew to put him into rehab for alcohol/drug addiction, and give him the severe punishment needed to help reform delinquents.

I am a parent but I also remember being a high school kid -- did you never attend a party at someone's house where there was alcohol and/or pot when you were in high school? And have you never gone to a party at a kid's house when the parents were out-of-town?! Come on - it was practically a right of passage when I was 16.

This is not the crime of the century.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. I am shocked at the number of supposed "parents" who are sitting there and saying to mind your business. This is your business: their kid threw a party. Your kid was at said party, was given alcohol (which is illegal) and pot(also illegal, even if the potheads up in our government now wish that wasn't the case), this has affected your child, and so to let this continue would be to ensure a location for juvenile delinquency continues to run as a party house.

If you don't report it, you will be supporting a public nuisense. If I was in your position, I would have called the cops immediately upon learning about this party, and immediately afterwards been talking to the "parents" that seem to think their kid is mature enough to stay home alone when they clearly just want to drink and get high.

If the situation was flipped, would you want to be notified? I would, certainly. It would be rough, but I would need to know, and I would even say that not reporting it is child neglect. Because should this been my teenage son throwing the party, you bet your ass I would want to know so I knew to put him into rehab for alcohol/drug addiction, and give him the severe punishment needed to help reform delinquents.

If there was underage drinking, that was stupid because doing illegal stuff is pretty stupid in most cases, and exposing everyone and the host's parents to liability for that was a really poor choice.

But I don't think it's as big a deal as you're making of it. The only reason I would have a problem with my kid hosting/attending such a thing is because of the legal issue. I think the drinking age is stupid, but it's the law so it is to be followed. Drinking to the point of getting drunk holds no appeal for me, and I suspect many people get over it once they have tried it a few times, but stigmatizing drinking and making it a forbidden fruit/adult/mysterious type thing is not at all helping the issue.

Attending or hosting a party with alcohol does not mean the kid necessarily has an addiction... good lord that's a massive overreaction. Is it a behavior pattern? Does it interfere with other activities of life? Those are indicators of a possible problem. One party one time is not, or did you not party at all in high school? If you were never really into that, I can see why it would seem scarier to you or like a bigger deal. Honestly, though, even if your kid attends a crazy party on occasion odds are pretty good that he's not an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. I am shocked at the number of supposed "parents" who are sitting there and saying to mind your business. This is your business: their kid threw a party. Your kid was at said party, was given alcohol (which is illegal) and pot(also illegal, even if the potheads up in our government now wish that wasn't the case), this has affected your child, and so to let this continue would be to ensure a location for juvenile delinquency continues to run as a party house.

If you don't report it, you will be supporting a public nuisense. If I was in your position, I would have called the cops immediately upon learning about this party, and immediately afterwards been talking to the "parents" that seem to think their kid is mature enough to stay home alone when they clearly just want to drink and get high.

If the situation was flipped, would you want to be notified? I would, certainly. It would be rough, but I would need to know, and I would even say that not reporting it is child neglect. Because should this been my teenage son throwing the party, you bet your ass I would want to know so I knew to put him into rehab for alcohol/drug addiction, and give him the severe punishment needed to help reform delinquents.

I am a parent but I also remember being a high school kid -- did you never attend a party at someone's house where there was alcohol and/or pot when you were in high school? And have you never gone to a party at a kid's house when the parents were out-of-town?! Come on - it was practically a right of passage when I was 16.

This is not the crime of the century.

NP here but actually I didn't attend any parties like that when I was in HS. Yeah, I was such an unpopular dork. Partied and dated like crazy in college though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. I am shocked at the number of supposed "parents" who are sitting there and saying to mind your business. This is your business: their kid threw a party. Your kid was at said party, was given alcohol (which is illegal) and pot(also illegal, even if the potheads up in our government now wish that wasn't the case), this has affected your child, and so to let this continue would be to ensure a location for juvenile delinquency continues to run as a party house.

If you don't report it, you will be supporting a public nuisense. If I was in your position, I would have called the cops immediately upon learning about this party, and immediately afterwards been talking to the "parents" that seem to think their kid is mature enough to stay home alone when they clearly just want to drink and get high.

If the situation was flipped, would you want to be notified? I would, certainly. It would be rough, but I would need to know, and I would even say that not reporting it is child neglect. Because should this been my teenage son throwing the party, you bet your ass I would want to know so I knew to put him into rehab for alcohol/drug addiction, and give him the severe punishment needed to help reform delinquents.

Do you actually have a teenager?

I'm raising the second one. I'd know if there was this kind of party in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A kid in my neighborhood had a party when the parents were out of town and about five neighbors had texted the parents while the party was still going on!

then this is not the same as OP's case since the neighbors knew the parents well enough to have their cell#, whereas sounds like OP doesn't know them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. I am shocked at the number of supposed "parents" who are sitting there and saying to mind your business. This is your business: their kid threw a party. Your kid was at said party, was given alcohol (which is illegal) and pot(also illegal, even if the potheads up in our government now wish that wasn't the case), this has affected your child, and so to let this continue would be to ensure a location for juvenile delinquency continues to run as a party house.

If you don't report it, you will be supporting a public nuisense. If I was in your position, I would have called the cops immediately upon learning about this party, and immediately afterwards been talking to the "parents" that seem to think their kid is mature enough to stay home alone when they clearly just want to drink and get high.

If the situation was flipped, would you want to be notified? I would, certainly. It would be rough, but I would need to know, and I would even say that not reporting it is child neglect. Because should this been my teenage son throwing the party, you bet your ass I would want to know so I knew to put him into rehab for alcohol/drug addiction, and give him the severe punishment needed to help reform delinquents.

Do you actually have a teenager?

I'm raising the second one. I'd know if there was this kind of party in my house.

I think that my own attention would be so focused on my kid and what my kid did and where he went that I wouldn't even think to alert the other parent to this. My initial reaction would be to deal with child and what my child did (drinking? driving? etc).