DH says "no romance until the children are grown".
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Gay.
So don't feel bad about leaving or taking a lover. He'll probably be relieved. |
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I hope the wives reading this will see themselves and wise up. Kids need a good marriage to for the family foundation. Putting husband last is a risky bet. |
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Oh barf. |
Anonymous
+1 This, OP. Though I would add asexual to the mix (which some consider another category of sexual orientation). Was he ever genuinely romantic or sexual with you? His behavior is extreme and reflects some serious issues on his part. |
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NP. This is a real thing. And eye opening if you haven't read this. |
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Perhaps, but the problems in this marriage sound way beyond the stage when that concept would've helped. |
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+2, I agree w/ both of these PP. Something is off about your DH. You should not have to live like this. It sounds horrible. |
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OP here. I don't think he is gay. He once was affectionate and sexually expressive toward me. He also is quite comfortable with gay rights and is a feminist. If he were gay he would have come out of the closet years ago.
I rebuffed him a bit right after we had our first child and while pregnant with our second. I suspect he is perhaps reacting to that? He also seems down and stressed. He is looking for work and frustrated. He said he is also stressed because our child has an illness we are working with doctors to diagnose. I understand that but these issues predate the illness. It hurts my feelings anyways. |
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| OP again. I just reread the original message. I may have exaggerated in the heat of the moment. He does go happily out on family outings but less so lately. |
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| He might be depressed, and he's certainly avoiding you. Hope you're able to talk him into counseling or something. |
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I only brought it up because maybe his love languages are Acts of Service. And he's so stressed that anything other than that is an annoyance. Maybe he is expressing love in the way he can. Obviously this does not work for OP. She can us the book as a way to show him that she needs her love languages from him in order for the marriage to survive. |
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Your marriage is done OP. In fact at this point I wouldn't even label it a marriage since it isn't even consummated as a marriage should be.
You deserve a man who shows you love, someone who makes you feel pretty and special. You really need a guy who will make you a better person in life. That is what true love means. This is not love at all. He is your roommate. |
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Really weird. When genders reversed people would say to just do more chores around the house and be patient. |
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In love with someone else but is staying with you for the kids? Or gay.
Sorry OP. What is his parents marriage like? Could this idea that having children in the house precludes romance be something he learned from them? |