Eloping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think eloping is the way to go. With a big fabulous party later for all your friends and family without all the traditional trappings and price tags.

This is what my husband and I are doing. We love across the country from our family and had a small courthouse wedding. But next month we're renewing our vows and having the party we would have wanted for our wedding.

[Anonymous]

If you want a private moment to celebrate your union, do it. Don't do it to spite anyone. We eloped and had a "reenactment" wedding later, which my crazy mother turned into a circus. Our first wedding was just for us and we loved it.

[Anonymous]

We eloped - been married 17 years. Families on both sides were a bit disappointed but not surprised we did it. We had a party at our home later on - it was much more our style. We have some friends who got married in Vegas (married 18 years), another that eloped in Europe and another that got married at a courthouse (I was the only attendant).

We eloped because I just didn't want to deal with the drama of a wedding or the expense.

[Anonymous]

It is tacky to have a reception if you elope. My brother (and his now EX wife) did that.
I didn't even know he was seriously dating someone, then I get an email with the title "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname" and a pic of them getting married in Reno!

About 6 months later they had a big reception. They live on the west coast so I was not about to spend tons of money and time going there for it. Sorry, if I'm not important enough to you to witness your marriage, why am I supposed to help you celebrate months later?

I think it's very selfish (to elope and then later hold the celebration.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to have a reception if you elope. My brother (and his now EX wife) did that.
I didn't even know he was seriously dating someone, then I get an email with the title "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname" and a pic of them getting married in Reno!

About 6 months later they had a big reception. They live on the west coast so I was not about to spend tons of money and time going there for it. Sorry, if I'm not important enough to you to witness your marriage, why am I supposed to help you celebrate months later?

I think it's very selfish (to elope and then later hold the celebration.)

Why? I'm the pp celebrating my marriage with family and friends next month. Lack of time and money sometimes prevents one from doing things in the traditional or preferred way - so why be so judgemental?

[Anonymous]

We were planning to travel abroad and get married, just the two of us. His mother begged us to reconsider and have a traditional wedding, and I'm so glad we agreed to do so.

It was amazing to have all of our family there, and to feel all the love. Neither of us ever thought it was what we wanted, but we loved it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why? I'm the pp celebrating my marriage with family and friends next month. Lack of time and money sometimes prevents one from doing things in the traditional or preferred way - so why be so judgemental?

Because this is DCUM and anonymous, where peoples real personality comes out to play.

[Anonymous]

we eloped in Italy. OUr family and friends new in advance. I think my parents were relieved that wouldn't be expected to pay for anything. My sister already had a huge traditional wedding so they already experienced all that drama and cost. We spent about 18k total but that included almost a month of traveling around Italy and mediterranean for the honeymoon. Honestly, I wouldn't change ONE SINGLE thing about the way we did it. Every single bit of it was romantic, stress free and fun. It was so special to make that day about us and what it meant to be getting married. My husband and I share the same values when it comes to money and we both agreed that paying for the experiences are more important than a one day wedding reception. WE did not have a party either when we got back. We both hate to be the center of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to have a reception if you elope. My brother (and his now EX wife) did that.
I didn't even know he was seriously dating someone, then I get an email with the title "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname" and a pic of them getting married in Reno!

About 6 months later they had a big reception. They live on the west coast so I was not about to spend tons of money and time going there for it. Sorry, if I'm not important enough to you to witness your marriage, why am I supposed to help you celebrate months later?

I think it's very selfish (to elope and then later hold the celebration.)

Ok grumpy pants. I'm one of the PP elopers too. I think you need a piece of chocoate and a hug because a celebration of a marriage isn't tacky. It's just that- a celebration. And bonus for you: no gifts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to have a reception if you elope. My brother (and his now EX wife) did that.
I didn't even know he was seriously dating someone, then I get an email with the title "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname" and a pic of them getting married in Reno!

About 6 months later they had a big reception. They live on the west coast so I was not about to spend tons of money and time going there for it. Sorry, if I'm not important enough to you to witness your marriage, why am I supposed to help you celebrate months later?

I think it's very selfish (to elope and then later hold the celebration.)

I believe you're serious! LOL! I'm sure no one missed you at the party/reception they had. My friends and I don't need to witness a ceremony to celebrate it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to have a reception if you elope. My brother (and his now EX wife) did that.
I didn't even know he was seriously dating someone, then I get an email with the title "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname" and a pic of them getting married in Reno!

About 6 months later they had a big reception. They live on the west coast so I was not about to spend tons of money and time going there for it. Sorry, if I'm not important enough to you to witness your marriage, why am I supposed to help you celebrate months later?

I think it's very selfish (to elope and then later hold the celebration.)

I think you have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we eloped in Italy. OUr family and friends new in advance. I think my parents were relieved that wouldn't be expected to pay for anything. My sister already had a huge traditional wedding so they already experienced all that drama and cost. We spent about 18k total but that included almost a month of traveling around Italy and mediterranean for the honeymoon. Honestly, I wouldn't change ONE SINGLE thing about the way we did it. Every single bit of it was romantic, stress free and fun. It was so special to make that day about us and what it meant to be getting married. My husband and I share the same values when it comes to money and we both agreed that paying for the experiences are more important than a one day wedding reception. WE did not have a party either when we got back. We both hate to be the center of attention.

Sounds amazing! I would do something similar when I get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to have a reception if you elope. My brother (and his now EX wife) did that.
I didn't even know he was seriously dating someone, then I get an email with the title "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname" and a pic of them getting married in Reno!

About 6 months later they had a big reception. They live on the west coast so I was not about to spend tons of money and time going there for it. Sorry, if I'm not important enough to you to witness your marriage, why am I supposed to help you celebrate months later?

I think it's very selfish (to elope and then later hold the celebration.)

It's not selfish- if you don't want to go then don't go. You likely won't be missed.

[Anonymous]

If one spouse has kids, should they atleast come to the wedding if their mom/dad elopes with a new spouse?

[Anonymous]

We did a court house ceremony with immediately family only. Had a "we got married" party with friends a couple of months later--super casual, no presents or dinner or anything. It was great but I never wanted a big wedding (hate being the center of attention.