Can a sexually less experienced man still be manly?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are looking for an aggressive guy that will take charge and dominate you. This is not the guy and it has nothing to do with his past sexual experience or the number of sexual partners he has had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are looking for an aggressive guy that will take charge and dominate you. This is not the guy and it has nothing to do with his past sexual experience or the number of sexual partners he has had.

Agreed. Manliness has nothing to do with number of sex partners. If you want to give him a chance, keep teaching him, and do let him know if it's more aggression that you'd like. He may be a nice guy who needs to hear that it's okay with you. Role play. You'll find out soon enough whether he's teachable.

[Anonymous]

So a gut with 6 kids and 4 mom's is your ideal?

[Anonymous]

you don't deserve him. let him go and spend the next 10-15 years of your life crying yourself to sleep every night wondering why you can't find a good guy.

J.F.C. some women can't help but to create their own problems when there are none to see.

[Anonymous]

OP, I was much less sexually experienced than my wife when I met her and many guys probably are because we weren't interested in hitting on anything that moves. However, I have a very high sex drive, larger than average equipment, and will try anything in bed my wife thinks up. Want to ask her how her sex life is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was much less sexually experienced than my wife when I met her and many guys probably are because we weren't interested in hitting on anything that moves. However, I have a very high sex drive, larger than average equipment, and will try anything in bed my wife thinks up. Want to ask her how her sex life is?

OP probably doesn't want to take responsibility for her own sexuality. So, she wants a dominant guy taking charge of the sex so she can enjoy it but, at some level, pretend that he's the dirty one.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you may not be a match OP- this would be a hard feeling for you to just get over. And it has nothing to do with him being 'too good for you' as some PP's have said. If he doesn't do it for you then he just doesn't, don't feel bad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was much less sexually experienced than my wife when I met her and many guys probably are because we weren't interested in hitting on anything that moves. However, I have a very high sex drive, larger than average equipment, and will try anything in bed my wife thinks up. Want to ask her how her sex life is?

OP probably doesn't want to take responsibility for her own sexuality. So, she wants a dominant guy taking charge of the sex so she can enjoy it but, at some level, pretend that he's the dirty one.

Exactly.

He doesn't sound like the One for you, OP. You'll probably never be completely happy with him because there's a basic incompatibility.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just taking his time, trying to figure you out. Maybe he's holding back out of fear of driving you away. Have you considered that maybe you're sending mixed signals, or no signals at all?

I once dated a woman who was incredibly shy, but she was amazing and hot as hell, and even though I wanted to pump the hell out of her, I always took it slow. And then one night she finally got really into it, and that was all the signal I needed.

If you're used to dominant (and clearly very experienced guys), you probably haven't had to do a lot of signaling. My advice: dirty talk. Lots and lots of dirty talk. Music to our fucking ears.

[Anonymous]

Instead of saying "manly," just say "dominant and aggressive," which isn't necessarily the same as manly. It sounds like OP wants a guy who exhibits the latter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best sex I ever had was with a guy who was pretty inexperienced.

are you a high school teacher?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm very conflicted. I am dating a new person who seems great on many levels, but right now just average in bed. We are communicating and he's very open and willing to do things my way, which is good. And he's great on all the main points: great character, attractive, very very smart, has a good job, etc. We're both in our early thirties.

I just can't get past the feeling that he's a little more reserved with women and hasn't been that great at getting women in the past, and probably hasn't had a lot of sex. And I wish it didn't make me feel less attracted to him, but it does.

I've certainly sown my wild oats and enjoyed it, and the men I am used to are extremely aggressive, experienced, usually have slept with 15-20 women, etc. I just feel like my current boyfriend isn't as much of a "man"....and I feel horrible about it so please don't pile on.

I am very confused.

Does his name start with a B?

The problem isn't him, it's you. Good sex requires both partners. Just tell him what u want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was much less sexually experienced than my wife when I met her and many guys probably are because we weren't interested in hitting on anything that moves. However, I have a very high sex drive, larger than average equipment, and will try anything in bed my wife thinks up. Want to ask her how her sex life is?

But how old were you when you met her?

[Anonymous]

Do you get the impression that he is into YOU? Or do you get the impression that he's just sort of...meh about you?

[Anonymous]

He can as he becomes more experienced. The question is, are you willing to be the woman that expands his experience and have the patience while that is happening?