What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
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| I was just thinking about a weird one... I don't think I could date someone who became defensive if/when I wanted to drive. My husband always took me wanting to drive as a criticism of his driving (it wasn't) and would get pissed off if I wanted to drive. Over nearly 15 years, I rarely drove the car when we were in it together unless he wanted to sleep (long car trips) or was drunk. I really like driving sometimes, but it was his irritation about me wanting to drive that bothered me so much. |
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| No military for me. |
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+ No gun enthusiasts. No campers. No living parents. No tats. |
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Can't have a disproportionately long torso. I don't care about looks in general, but that just creeps me out.
Must have a naturally good smell. |
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I'm sorry but LMAO |
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When I was dating about the only deal breaker for me was health.
I wasn't going to marry a woman that had any type of health issue that would possibly pass to my children. There was no compromise in my mind. I hit the jackpot. Kids are healthy. |
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So far! |
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Frivolous censorship.
Whitespace police. ~ A well read man. |
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| Find a German man if you want an intact penis. |
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| Did I mention precision? |
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What I would consider the usual: Kind, honest, trustworthy, no drug issues, loyal.
Beyond that (non-frivoulous): Funny. Has to be a fully-functioning grown up (e.g. no pile of debt for no reason, doesn't let his insurance/passport/drivers license expire because 'no one reminded him' to renew them etc.) If I wanted someone I had to look after, I'd give birth to them. Ambition. I don't require that he have a white-collar career, but he actually has to treat whatever he does as a career. If you're a bricklayer, you'd better be aspiring to be the best damn bricklayer in the city, or have plans to own your own bricklaying business, or something. No over-attachments to exes. This also continues to: no weird issues that surface regularly because of an ex. After a certain age, we all have baggage. I expect that someone who has determined they are ready to be dating will have dealt with theirs and it will be stowed neatly in the overhead compartment. Has couth/is not cheap/is comfortable in relatively upscale social situations. This is necessary because of my career, and since I don't plan on changing careers soon, I need a partner who will be good in these situations too. Understands family obligations. This one is big for me, as I'm an only child, so when my parents become ill/infirm I can't just assume a sibling will help with their care while I live footloose and fancy free halfway across the globe, or something. I'm not saying that I'd want them living with me, and they're well enough off, so I won't have to look after them in that sense, but I would not be comfortable leaving them parked in a nursing home while I visited once or twice a year. Gets along well with the majority of my friends/family. Possibly frivolous: I recently had a fantastic date with a guy who was very hairy. I'm not sure why I was surprised, given that he told me he ethnic background before the date, but I still found it off-putting that I noticed ear hair. He's in his 30s, was very well-dressed, and well-groomed, works in a profession where appearances matter, so I was just surprised at that. Wondering if I can say, hey buddy, I wax my nether regions, you have to wax your ears (and possibly back/shoulders if they turn out to be as hairy as I expect that they will) if things go that far. |
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True in my experience. |
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Not liking dogs would be a deal breaker for me. |
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| No dogs. No kids. No Cowboys/Yankees fans. |
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No guns, or hunting
Not rude to waitstaff, etc Must be masculine Not socially conservative Not humorless No bad breath or dirty nails |