Girl's weekend in the Caribbean - with baby?

[Anonymous]

OP here again -

Just found out, there will be 5 of us in a 2br + sleeper sofa suite (so I can easily stay out of everyone's way with the baby) and the resort offers babysitting services, so I can still have no baby time.

Hopefully this means it can work!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again -

Just found out, there will be 5 of us in a 2br + sleeper sofa suite (so I can easily stay out of everyone's way with the baby) and the resort offers babysitting services, so I can still have no baby time.

Hopefully this means it can work!

Is there any way you can get your own separate room? I would just be concerned that even if you have your own room the baby might disturb others by crying or fussing in the night. And I know you said you would ask your friends if it was OK to bring the baby, but I think that puts them in an uncomfortable position. They can't really say no without feeling like jerks, but they might be thinking that they really don't want the baby there yet are afraid to say so. It might be different if your friends were moms, but since they are not, I don't think having a baby along would be what they are into. Sorry to be harsh, but I am trying to think of it more from their point of view.

[Anonymous]

If you're friends aren't even married yet and are without kids, they probably won't have that maternal instinct - there might be some frustrating and resentful moments for everyone....just a thought.

[Anonymous]

I would really encourage you not to bring your baby...especially if you're sharing the same living quarters with your friends! Even if you have your own room in the condo, the baby will still be heard, you'll still be getting up in the middle of the night, your friends might think they have to be super duper quiet all the time when the baby is sleeping... ugh, just sounds like a really bad idea. Especially since none of them have kids! I am thinking WAY back to when I didn't have kids - I would be annoyed as hell if I went on vaca to get away and my friend brought along her 3 month old baby!!!

And there is plenty of partying - even on MOnday nights - when you're at a beach. On vacation.

[Anonymous]

I would probably be a bit pissed off if someone brought a baby on a girls' weekend. Either you skip the trip or leave the baby at home. I have missed our annual girls' weekend for 3 yrs since I am a single parent and don't have anyone to babysit. Be thankful you have a husband to take the kids for a few days. Go and enjoy yourself. Dad will survive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll be a different voice of dissent, but I probably would pass on the trip. I personally wouldn't be ready to leave my baby behind just three months post-partum and it definitely doesn't seem like the right sort of weekend to bring the baby along. Can the date be moved back by a few months?

I totally agree with this.

I agree too.

[Anonymous]

OP again

We cant move the trip bc 2 o the girls already bought plane tickets and the resort has been paid for. The girls are going or a week - Sun-Sun. At most, I would be going for 3 nights (prob M-R). Obviously, it will depend on how the baby is, and whether or not it is sleeping well, colicky, etc..., but I was always a bigger party girl in college and i my friends (who have NEVER shied from telling me the truth) say they dont mind, I'll probably bring the new baby.

I dont mind laying by the beach/pool with the stroller or pop-up tent with the baby and the girls. If I decide to do something more exciting (boating, jet-skiing, etc,), I will use the resort's babysitter. I will certainly not inringe on their desire to do anything more exciting.

Its my 2nd baby, so I hope to have a better grasp on the whole mommy/newborn thing.

Thanks for all the advice!

[Anonymous]

I think if you are going to do this, offer to get your own room. That way there are no hard feelings. They might say they are cool with bringing a baby when you ask, but if they have no kids, they have no idea and resentment can follow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you are going to do this, offer to get your own room. That way there are no hard feelings. They might say they are cool with bringing a baby when you ask, but if they have no kids, they have no idea and resentment can follow.

Agree with this. That way you have your own place to go if the baby is crying and you don't have to worry about disturbing anyone. I also agree that if they don't have kids, they probably have no idea what life with a new baby is like (I know I didn't pre-kids). Do they know that babies sometimes get up a couple times a night? I know they say they are OK with it, but what are they supposed to say?