Sex life isn’t great, considering adult circumcision – WWYD

[Anonymous]

Has he tried warming the skin and the stretching? (similar to foreskin restoration)

I'd try that for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has he tried warming the skin and the stretching? (similar to foreskin restoration)

I'd try that for sure.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell him to just whack that bad boy right off. Life will be so much better.

[Anonymous]

Is this only a problem with condoms?

[Anonymous]

OP I don't have an answer but just wanted to send my sympathies. You sound like a kind wife. I hope you both find a solution that works for you.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd be ok with oral and other stuff. Not a big deal. But that's just me.

Don't pressure him into this. That is a recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

I had a similar problem, foreskin tight and sex was painful. It contributed to my marriage breaking down as I avoided sex because it was so uncomfortable. I had a circumcision under local anaesthetic and they took too much foreskin off causing me a lot of pain. A few years on I know it was the right thing but I think my penis looks real ugly.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend who did it as an adult, however he did it because he felt it was unattractive (a different emotional place to make such a choice). He said it made his sex life fantastic, and his penis bigger. His account- not mine...
It's a bit of a risk as pp who had a painful outcome. However, are you okay if from 10 years from now nothing has changed?

[Anonymous]

My brother and my best friend's husband had to have it done as adults. My brother for varicoselle (pretty painful condition) and my friend on the advise of his fertility doctors. Procedure went well for both and they were able to conceive easily after that. No side effects or problems.
I thought it was a fairly common procedure and have never heard the horror stories, but then again I have never done much research about it.
Get a great doctor and have a serious conversation about options. Good luck

[Anonymous]

My BIL did circ as an adult. He was 45. It was uneventful. It was a medical procedure that went exactly as planned and he does not regret it. He knows other men of the same age who also did it. There is an under ground movement of circ as adults, since I know 3 who did. There are horror stories about every procedure on the internet. Anyone contemplating surgery knows better than to focus on those since the vast majority are completely successful. OP, it sounds like your DH is suffering more from being uncirc than he would being circ.

[Anonymous]

I had a man who worked for me get this done. I only know because there were issues on whether he could use sick leave since the procedure was optional. Can't tell you the outcome, but the procedure is not rare. I do know the recovery needs to be carefully followed, or the risk for complications and slower healing is multiplied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure there are plenty of horror stories on the net. I feel compelled to tell mine, even though I highly doubt your husband would encounter the same problem as an adult.

btw, I know a man that got cut when he was in his early 80's ......... don't know why, not going there with him, urghhh my neighbor. My wife works in the hospital and came across him as a patient.

I have always had low blood pressure. I'm a grower. The delivery doc didn't know that. He took off way too much skin. I usually subconsciously don't get fully erect because it's somewhat painful, but livable with. So little skin left, that when I get hard, it has to use the skin reserved for my balls. It pulls my balls up tight against the shaft. Makes it painful because as I pump in her, the balls taking a beating with every pump. My cock just doesn't have enough skin to fully erect, thereby making my cock far thicker than average just so the blood has a place to go I guess , which does have it's advantages
There's a solution for my problem as well. Slicing the ball sac and redoing it. Which is far more complicated than a circ. The scary part for me is not knowing what my cock would look like, kinda an unknown. Not to mention about 5k out of my pocket. Your husband doesn't have that problem. He can simply pull back the skin and that's exactly what he gets. I wished I had his issue.

I say do it.

You have no concept of circumcision. It is extra skin. It is a flap that the head comes out of; it is not extra skin. Look at an anatomy book.

I think he's giving his opinion based on a similar - albeit in reverse - procedure that is fraught with the same emotional issues.

[Anonymous]

I'm an RN. The number of adult men to see with phimosis is way more than you'd think: probably 30-40% of the uncirced men I see as patients. In addition, if the guy becomes incapacitated, there are very few family members who properly clean that thing---infections, grossness, and more problems. Get a circ, circ your children, you won't regret it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar problem, foreskin tight and sex was painful. It contributed to my marriage breaking down as I avoided sex because it was so uncomfortable. I had a circumcision under local anaesthetic and they took too much foreskin off causing me a lot of pain. A few years on I know it was the right thing but I think my penis looks real ugly.

I mean this kindly - all penises are kind of ugly when you're just looking at them. However, when a woman is aroused, she's not thinking how beautiful (or ugly) a penis is, she just wants it to be functional.

[Anonymous]

You say he's happy with your oral-sex sex life. You may just have to live with how things are now. I cannot imagine pressuring someone into having surgery just because you'd prefer to have sex a different way. It would be like a DH pressuring his wife to get surgery so she'd be tighter, or so she'd have bigger breasts or something.

I know its a bummer. Frankly my DH has lost the ability to sustain an erection enough for intercourse most of the time and we end up mostly having oral sex, which works for him. I could pressure him to take pills or whatever, but he does not want to. I don't think he would pressure me to do various medical things for him so I don't pressure him and as long as he can do other things I enjoy, I just leave it alone. Not everything in life is exactly as one wishes. And my impression is that men's ability to do the deed diminishes as they age, so branching out into other forms of love-making might be inevitable anyway.

If, however, he just doesn't to it for you sexually, then that is a different issue....like if he is not attentive to your enjoyment in other ways, that would be a problem. Personally, though, I would be really annoyed if my spouse was trying to pressure me to have a surgery I did not want.