How do you ask a friend about college admissions?

[Anonymous]

YOU DO NOT ASK! Sooner or later, the school of choice will be known then you can ask specifics about the process (which is a head game).

[Anonymous]

April lst is usually the first date of release. Just let it go. They will tell you if they want you to know. This can be a very painful period for parents and their children.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the consensus--stay out of it for now, OP. We went through the whole thing last year, and it was stressful and never ending, and I didn't want to talk about it with anyone until our kid was absolutely certain about where she wanted to go. Once the deposit was made and she committed to her school, we still didn't volunteer much information (like on Facebook for instance, it seemed too much like bragging and rubbing it in), but we did tell close relatives and friends.

If you are curious about the process, then wait until the fall to ask for information. I've only had one parent ask me for advice on how to best deal with the admissions process and senior year, but I'm more than happy to talk about it at this point, because the whole stressful deal is put behind us now.

So happy I only had to go through it once.

[Anonymous]

I am from another country and I don't understand why all this process cant be more natural and relax. Why is problem asking? If you were not admitted cant you just said I on on the waitlist? Would that make you less intelligent? I dont get it.

[Anonymous]

I AM on th wl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am from another country and I don't understand why all this process cant be more natural and relax. Why is problem asking? If you were not admitted cant you just said I on on the waitlist? Would that make you less intelligent? I dont get it.

Applying to university is very stressful in the US , because there is a perceived hierarchy among universities. The application process is long, and applicants have to supply a lot of material, be interviewed etc. University is also expensive, so many students don't get to decide on a university until they know how much financial assistance they have been offered. It is considered a personal question.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else find it ridiculously sad that this is even a point one has to debate? This isn't an insult to OP, but to the process as a whole.

I am excited for any kid who follows the path they want to take. I just want my kids to work hard and be kind.

They are the ones concerned with status schools and admissions rates because...why?

Seems like such a waste of energy overall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am from another country and I don't understand why all this process cant be more natural and relax. Why is problem asking? If you were not admitted cant you just said I on on the waitlist? Would that make you less intelligent? I dont get it.

College admissions is not about parents. When people asked me, I told them that the process was my daughter's and that I didn't feel at liberty to discuss it (and actually she did ask me to keep it myself) And unless a question such as this is from a really close friend, it's really just nosiness and a need to compare. Now that my daughter is about to graduate from college, I see the cycle repeating itself. It's really kind of pathetic.

[Anonymous]

I'm curios to know since I have a jr. In a text conversation with a friend, I asked if they were all done. Still waiting on a reply..lol...note to self, don't ever ask!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU DO NOT ASK! Sooner or later, the school of choice will be known then you can ask specifics about the process (which is a head game).

Sorry. Depends on the friend. My close friends seek me out to talk about this. Obviously, it's better to lay low with someone you don't know as well.