Sister's divorce - can she do anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and sorry, I did misspeak when I said she is paying for everything and he isn't. I was upset because I'd just hung up with her. What I meant was she's paying for everything extra outside of the absolute minimum that he is required to pay. It's just not sustainable, and he knows it, and so he is refusing to move forward in the hopes that she can't take it any more and she gives in.

OP, your sister is going to have to come to the understanding that divorce often means a change of lifestyle, whether fair or not and regardless of income of soon to be ex-husband. It doesn't sound as if she gets that yet. For many people, it's still worth getting the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Of course she gets that. But that doesn't mean she has infinite resources to fund attorneys' bills for nonsensical bullshit simply because her husband is a jerk.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't have a problem with reducing spending. What she has a problem with is seeing how, with her reduced lifestyle, she will be able to pay what seems to be unending legal fees just because he wants to break her.

[Anonymous]

It's not fair at all, but I've seen it happen to friends and a close family member. I think some guys (and some women) enjoy the "battle" and proving points.

[Anonymous]

Then she should deal with Her X not paying for extras and stop using an attorney. She's losing on both ends. She can explain to her kids that they cannot do xyz because daddy won't pay his share and she can't afford it. There's nothing wrong with honest talk about money and responsibility with your kids. She's fighting a battle that will emotionally and financially drain her. She needs to accept the fact her X is an a-hole and her and kid's lifestyle will change due to the divorce