When your spouse is neglectful...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have to OP.

It's a two-way street and unless you get the attention, respect and love that you deserve...Then how are you expected to offer it to someone else?

While i agree, Approaching it that way will only lead to confrontation. Unless it becomes "their problem" together, even though it looks like she has poor coping skills, that will guarantee only fighting. It tends to back people in corners and leads to no solutions. If he wants to divorce, that's exactly the dig in position he should take.

[Anonymous]

I didn't. DH was working like a mad dog and ignoring me, breaking dates left and right, crashing at home for six hours to sleep, shower and change clothes but that's it.

I had to give him a come to jesus talk. What are you working for? I don't need Berkin bags. I need you. He found a different company that gave a better work/life balance.

[Anonymous]

husband: "gosh honey, you seem menopausal today. You forgot to pack my lunch, is your dementia getting worse? That new diet isn't working either, looks like you packed on a few more pounds. BTW, did you take your medicine, because you know how you get if you miss it." Wife: stalks off.

Husband: "I don't know what's got into her? I made a few insensitive remarks, but it was just a mistake. I don't understand why she gets all bent out if shape. It's hard to be loving to someone who has an anger problem."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:husband: "gosh honey, you seem menopausal today. You forgot to pack my lunch, is your dementia getting worse? That new diet isn't working either, looks like you packed on a few more pounds. BTW, did you take your medicine, because you know how you get if you miss it." Wife: stalks off.

Husband: "I don't know what's got into her? I made a few insensitive remarks, but it was just a mistake. I don't understand why she gets all bent out if shape. It's hard to be loving to someone who has an anger problem."

LOL exactly.