I literally caught DH in the act cheating and HE STILL denies everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. So what, pray tell, is his explanation?

That I imagined that there was another person there.

That's rich. Yeah, don't even acknowledge how absurd that it. Ignore it. In all future interactions, simply refer to this situation as when he was fucking another woman in our home. Do not relent. It happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. So what, pray tell, is his explanation?

That I imagined that there was another person there.

What an ass? Sorry, OP. Did this happen today? How did he think he was going to pull this off? Were you supposed to be at work or something?

[Anonymous]

It is called gaslighting.

I'm sorry OP. Do what you need in order to move on. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

He had the other woman in your bed?! WTF?

[Anonymous]

Does he claim it was a blow up doll or something else? Or just that you are totally hallucinating? I am sorry, that is awful.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids? Hiw old are they?

[Anonymous]

It was the house cleaner and she lost her contact lens on the bed?

[Anonymous]

"Are you going to believe me or your lying eyes?"

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP. Get some rest.

[Anonymous]

it's called gas lighting.

Why did you move out????

He needs to move out, not you. Demand this. But first make sure you can re-enter the marital home. He might have already changed the locks.

Get back in there fast and ask him to leave in writing. And call a lawyer on Monday morning. Many work on the holiday. You have big big problems and you need to face them. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP. Agree that he needs to leave the house.

Huge hugs and wishing a huge swift kick to his balls from us!

[Anonymous]

Because he is a man. And men are stupid.

(Flame away men...!!)

He is denying right now because he has no other defense. What an idiot.

Next he will realize that his shoddy defense will get him nowhere. Then he will admit his mistake and beg you to take him back.

I hope you do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it's called gas lighting.

Why did you move out????

He needs to move out, not you. Demand this. But first make sure you can re-enter the marital home. He might have already changed the locks.

Get back in there fast and ask him to leave in writing. And call a lawyer on Monday morning. Many work on the holiday. You have big big problems and you need to face them. I'm sorry.

This, a million time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Your husband is denying the affair because it changes the argument to one that is more pleasant to lose.

He knows he's screwed. He would rather lose a fight about why he's doing some weird, stupid thing (i.e., denying it despite being caught red handed) than lose one about why he was cheating. Don't belabor the issue; anything you say to him should take for granted the fact that he was caught red handed. He'll drop it.

OP: that at least makes sense. I can't get my head around it.

My family does this kind of lying all the time. It's their favorite form of communication. As you move on from this, you're going to find more of your husband's lies. If he's going to lie about an affair when you actually caught him in the act, then you can count on it - he's in the habit of lying. Sorry, I know how horrible it feels. To make things less painful for you, pp's advice is very good. Don't engage when he tries to argue the point. You know the truth, and that's that.