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I did not get any nausea until 9 weeks. I know exactly how you feel, because I kept hearing that stuff about morning sickness being a sign of a healthy pregnancy and all. Most women DO have some form of "morning sickness" but it's only somewhere around 75 percent. That means that 25 percent of women (you lucky, lucky beyotches) do not get any morning sickness at all. My friend was in this category two times and has two very healthy baby girls. Even among those 75 percent who did have morning sickness, not all of them get the sick as a dog, all day long sickness. For some women (like me) the nausea is super intense but the actual throwing up doesn't happen all the time. (I felt like I had wicked hangover nausea and was moments from hurling all day every day no matter WHAT I ate and when I ate it). Other women, from what I understand, get only mild nausea when, say, they are brushing their teeth. Or in the morning (the typical morning sickness). And some might have had morning sickness but they had such great eating habits that some of the sickness was mitigated. (I personally used to resent the hell out of people who woud offer me suggestions on what and how to eat, though, as it made no difference at all to how i felt).
Anyway, i guess what I'm saying is that the morning sickness thing is wack. But not as wack as someone making comments to you about ANYTHING you are experiencing being a "bad sign." Other posters are absolutely right, unfortunatly. You will not BELIEVE the crap that people are going to start saying to you. At least you are in the second trimester and you can put most of those worries aside. As for me, I told my best friend I was pregnant. She said, "Oh, you took a test? Well, go to the doctor as there are a lot of false positives." (BTW, that is not correct). Then she said: "Well, be careful who you tell. My sister told everyone she was pregnant and then had a miscarriage. You won't want to tell everyone right now while it's still so likely you'll have a miscarriage. Do you want to have to untell everyone?" WTFWTFWTFWTF? I wanted to punch her lips off. I contented myself with hanging up on her. Really mature, huh? |
Anonymous
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OP – you have nothing to worry about. I had three pregnancies without any morning sickness at all. There was no problem and the kids are just fine and very healthy.
This is probably only the beginning. You will hear lots of possibly well meaning but totally misinformed advice and opinions. It could get even worse after the baby is born. Try to ignore this as “noise” and don’t let it bother you. |
Anonymous
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what an idiot. i've read that morning sickness affects about 50% of pregnant women, and has nothing to do with anything, that they know of. I had no morning sickness. My sister had bad morning sickness. We both gave birth to healthy girls who weighed within 7 oz of each other.
the only downside of "no morning sickness" is that you might ultimately gain more weight than someone who was hurling up their meals! 
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Anonymous
| Totally agree with the PPs. Some women just get lucky and don't have any M/S, and it sounds like you might be one of them. If your doc. says everything looks fine for you, and you are in your 2nd tri, you should be just fine. 2 of my best friends who were just pregnant had no -- not a STITCH! -- morning sickness, and both just delivered totally healthy, beautiful, amazing babies in the past month. One of them delivered twins -- no M/S, with twin hormone levels, that lucky girl! Easier said then done, I know, but try and plug your ears to the ridiculous comments from relatives, friends and yes, even strangers. They will just keep coming...it is amazing what people will say to a pregnant woman. But seriously, be glad -- m/s is horrible, and can be really debilitating (I'm due in 3 weeks and my all-day m/s was truly miserable from 6w to 20w). GL to you! |
Anonymous
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Your relative is an idiot. I think I had an upset stomach once during my pregnancy and dd was just fine!
Hang in there, OP! |
Anonymous
| He's retarded. Morning sickness is actually much less frequent than anyone seems to think. I think it's like 20% only of all moms get sick. And then you can have problems because you're sick - not proper nutrition, being tired all the time etc. Enjoy your good fortune. What a retard! |
Anonymous
| Pregnancy seems to bring out the most insensitive comments in others. I used to think I was just being 'hormonal' but people really do say the most insensitive things. I was sick until about 20 weeks (hospitalized because I was so sick). People told me that it was all mental. It was actually a very rare condition that they just had never heard of and didn't understand. I was so incensed when people would say things like 'You just need to find better coping mechanisms'. As if I could control what was happening to my body. Now with that over, on at least two separate occasions I've had people tell me stories of women they knew that carried to term and ended up having stillbirths. Who would say such a thing to someone just weeks away from delivering??? Don't let those comments get to you, believe me, through the course of your pregnancy there will be more. They are all just insenstive idiots who don't deserve your attention. Once you find out the gender, feel the first kicks - none of that other stuff will matter. |
Anonymous
| Don't worry--that old wive's tale is ridiculous.....I did not have any morning sickness with my first pregnancy and everything turned out fine! |
Anonymous
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no sickness- all is well.
Try to relax and enjoy- |
Anonymous
| Hi OP. I had no morning sickness - and luckily enough no abnoxious relatives - and had good pregnancy and delivery. Good luck. You'll be great! |
Anonymous
OP please don't worry. With both of my pregnancies I never had any morning sickness, my only symptoms were red meat and salt cravings and exhaustion. I carried two healthy boys to term who are thriving with every day that goes by. Your relative is an insensitive jerk. |
Anonymous
| ZERO morning sickness. Perfectly healthy child. |
Anonymous
| OP here- thanks so much all of you for your support! |
Anonymous
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Can totally relate to your sensitivity - I had no morning sickness and I am also carrying small so I get frequently get comments about how I don't look I'm 36 weeks pregnant. I've learned to just ignore them. So I didn't get sick and I'm not as large as an elephant - and that's a BAD thing??
I think we're so used to hearing about all the bad effects of pregnancy that when things go smoothly we get freaked out and think something's wrong. I also wonder, as did some PPs, whether m/s is really as common as the statistics that everyone spouts. How did they formulate those statistics? How accurate are they? |
Anonymous
| I had very, very light morning sickness during the first two months and my 1 month old son is healthy and very handsome. We didn't tell our relatives I was pregnant until the beginning of the second trimester to avoid unnecessary comments (especially from my IL's) over the phone. Almost all our relatives live overseas. |