Why am I never content being single or in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, at 26 you have an unlimited supply of men interested in you so you so that might be a factor. Also, why do people feel they have to "check in" when dating. I never did that when I was single but was also a serial monogamist.

I don't understand the checking in thing also. When dating, you shouldn't have to owe the other person nothing unless plans are made.

This is where cell phones have pretty much ruined things. Too easy to contact someone and see what they are doing. Too many expectations of when you expect to hear from your partner. Just too easy. Gone are the days of hearing from someone every few days while dating. Too easy to get smothered or to smother someone.

Another reason why I hope I will never be single again......

[Anonymous]

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Another reason why I hope I will never be single again......

Why?

If you realize that cell phones can mess a relationship/dating up, then be proactive about setting a standard with those you date.

I am single. I am dating. And I don't get caught up in the texting game. I may not answer a text for some hours. Sometimes the next day (unless it is something important). Based on my texting, they don't expect me to be sending them much. I have dated women who are like me too. I know that when I text them, not hearing back from them isn't a big deal. They also don't text nonsense...only to set up plans or share something funny.

[Anonymous]

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It just goes to show that you are not at all emotionally ready to have a serious and committed relationship now and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I say sow your wild oats now. If not now, then when?

There is nothing wrong with what she wants, but she needs to have the class, maturity and INTEGRITY to NOT enter relationships! She wants to have her cake and eat it too: She never wants to be "alone" (heaven for fucking bid) but she also wants the freedom of being single!

Tell these men you would love to date them, but you are not interested in being exclusive. Of course, that may lead them to dump YOU, but that's how having integrity works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
It just goes to show that you are not at all emotionally ready to have a serious and committed relationship now and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I say sow your wild oats now. If not now, then when?

There is nothing wrong with what she wants, but she needs to have the class, maturity and INTEGRITY to NOT enter relationships! She wants to have her cake and eat it too: She never wants to be "alone" (heaven for fucking bid) but she also wants the freedom of being single!

Tell these men you would love to date them, but you are not interested in being exclusive. Of course, that may lead them to dump YOU, but that's how having integrity works.

I don't think that is what she wants. She even says it takes about 6 months and they she feels like being a single again.

I think she wants a relationship...but just hasn't found the right guy yet. That is what dating is all about. Eventually she may find the right man.

[Anonymous]

new relationships/flirting/dating can be like a drug.

I was definitely the exact same way until I fell for a guy I could not give up! We ended up marrying at 27 years. I absolutely grieved not being able to have any other "firsts" ever again. But this is so much more than that.

It might just take you some time..enjoy yourself!

[Anonymous]

Because at 26, you are still extremely immature and don't know yourself well at all. (And yes, OP, I mean you, specifically, are immature, not all 26 year olds. The writing in your post is evidence of that.)

[Anonymous]

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I don't think that is what she wants. She even says it takes about 6 months and they she feels like being a single again.

No, that is exactly what she wants. She said it in her original post:

I want the companionshop, affection, partner in crime, support, and sex. When I'm in a relationship I wish I were single and hate checking in, want to be alone, etc. I would never cheat but I miss the going out on dates, flirting, doing whatever whenever, etc.

She wants the status of being "in a relationship" but without the responsibilities and drudgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Another reason why I hope I will never be single again......

Why?

If you realize that cell phones can mess a relationship/dating up, then be proactive about setting a standard with those you date.

I am single. I am dating. And I don't get caught up in the texting game. I may not answer a text for some hours. Sometimes the next day (unless it is something important). Based on my texting, they don't expect me to be sending them much. I have dated women who are like me too. I know that when I text them, not hearing back from them isn't a big deal. They also don't text nonsense...only to set up plans or share something funny.

Thats how I am. (Female, 26) If someone wants to text all the time, like how was your day type stuff, I generally will respond OCASSIONALLY and when I feel like it. It sets up a standard of "dont freak out if i'm not texting you back, I'm not a big texter".