So...ew. I may never eat out again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Land that copter Mommy!

This made me lol.

[Anonymous]

So you're teaching your kid to quit work every time she gets sick and doesn't have authorized leave?

[Anonymous]

The flu is a highly contagious communicable disease. An employer can be reported if they are forcing someone to work while exposing others. Though you would have to prove it.

[Anonymous]

Your daughters boss is like this for a few reasons...

1. Many employees lie about illness this time of year to get out of work. I had 5 call outs on NYE once. I told the, all to show up and truly would have sent them home if they were sick.

2. The public Are assholes. If you came in my restaurant on a holiday and I had multiple tables closed due to server illness you would be po'd. Everyone acts like they would understand but they don't. It is so easy to complain to corporate via email or demand free food due to an " unnecessary" long wait for service.

I got in mega trouble for having closed tables in my restaurant by the public and my bosses. Restaurant managers can't win.

[Anonymous]

I worked in restaurants in my twenties and this was always the policy - for hosts, servers, bartenders, and kitchen staff. Ridiculous, and horrible for public health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're teaching your kid to quit work every time she gets sick and doesn't have authorized leave?

Uh, no. I'm teaching her to be a human being who is considerate and responsible.

As a parent of an immuno-compromised child, this is important stuff. We live in a society where we expect people to follow standards of courtesy.

And yeah, I think if this manager thinks she is lying, after 2 years of working and never once not working a holiday or given any reason to think she would lie, yeah, I'm as offended as she is and good for her for quitting.

Restaurant managers who expect to see someone to prove they are sick with comments that "they would send them home if they looked sick", this is the FLU. The kid has 103 fever and can barely make it to the bathroom. the entire family has the flu. Which one of us should carry the kid into your restaurant for your inspection?

I'm disgusted with making excuses for people serving food to be bullied into working when very sick. It's disgusting. Seriously it's such poor hygiene I'm completely repulsed.

All the manager had to do was tell her she had to bring in a doctors note when she returned. I would have found that request to be very reasonable.

But anyway, I'm not helicoptering, my comment was about disgusting restaurant practices, not about my kid's bitchy boss. She can handle her own employment issues just fine.

[Anonymous]

This happens more often than you think, and not just in the restaurant industry. I'm a nurse and the official policy is not to come to work when sick but reality is a whole different ballgame- including not getting paid if you happen to call out on certain shifts around the holidays.

[Anonymous]

He thinks she's lying to get out of work at the holidays. This happened to me at my college restaurant job once... They told me to come in so I did and was hacking all over the place and sneezing and had runny eyes. They sent me home after about an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens more often than you think, and not just in the restaurant industry. I'm a nurse and the official policy is not to come to work when sick but reality is a whole different ballgame- including not getting paid if you happen to call out on certain shifts around the holidays.

My SIL works in the medical profession and she's always at work when she's sick. So strange to me.

[Anonymous]

I've worked in restaurants over 15 years and have called in sick only twice. One time sprained my ankle at work-missed the last step on stairs carrying beer (they still asked if I could come to work) and one time I had full blown flu for 5-7 days.
I've been sick at work plenty of times. Nobody cares about your health at least in restaurant business. People are coming to spend money and you better be there to take it. And customers don't want to hear that today servers have 10 tables each not the usual 6. And even so, can't we run faster!
I'd let her quit. There are plenty of hostess jobs out there, some places treat you better, some worse. She has been there long enough to prove( not that she has to) that she is good worker/hard worker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens more often than you think, and not just in the restaurant industry. I'm a nurse and the official policy is not to come to work when sick but reality is a whole different ballgame- including not getting paid if you happen to call out on certain shifts around the holidays.

Oh my GOD as a NURSE??

Virginia has the highest possible level of flu in the CDC's ranking code. Reading all this makes me think its because Virginia has the stupidest bosses on the planet.

[Anonymous]

What's the chain? I feel you really should share that info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you're teaching your kid to quit work every time she gets sick and doesn't have authorized leave?

Uh, no. I'm teaching her to be a human being who is considerate and responsible.

As a parent of an immuno-compromised child, this is important stuff. We live in a society where we expect people to follow standards of courtesy.

And yeah, I think if this manager thinks she is lying, after 2 years of working and never once not working a holiday or given any reason to think she would lie, yeah, I'm as offended as she is and good for her for quitting.

Restaurant managers who expect to see someone to prove they are sick with comments that "they would send them home if they looked sick", this is the FLU. The kid has 103 fever and can barely make it to the bathroom. the entire family has the flu. Which one of us should carry the kid into your restaurant for your inspection?

I'm disgusted with making excuses for people serving food to be bullied into working when very sick. It's disgusting. Seriously it's such poor hygiene I'm completely repulsed.

All the manager had to do was tell her she had to bring in a doctors note when she returned. I would have found that request to be very reasonable.

But anyway, I'm not helicoptering, my comment was about disgusting restaurant practices, not about my kid's bitchy boss. She can handle her own employment issues just fine.

Good for you and your daughter. If he is willing to fire a good employee over having a fever and the flu, it would be better if she looked for another job. There are plenty of service positions in the DC area and I bet it would be totally workable to quit and find another when you feel better, if you did not need the daily income.

I know most service positions are like this (the pressure to come in with illness), in any industry, and I hate it! It's one reason I don't go out to eat very much any more, and I would never, ever, ever go to a restaurant on a holiday. I guess there are a lot of people with better immune systems who just don't care. And no, I'm not the OP, but can really see why she is disgusted if she had not realized this before...

[Anonymous]

Please really? Most people working in the food service industry do not get sick days. You don't show up, you don't get paid. So they work sick. Some times they have not slept or showered in 3 days either and they are hung over. You think they are going to throw out that questionable shrimp or just throw it in the pan?

[Anonymous]

I think about this all the time because one SIL is a dental assistant, the other draws blood at a lab. Neither is permitted sick days. This country is so screwed up.