Feeling very distant from my children

[Anonymous]

Before I say anything to my adult children I ask myself, "would I say that to a friend?" If I wouldn't, if it would be out-of-line, I don't say it. I don't give advice unless asked ( now if it involves my property, I have say-so) This, and I think this alone has contributed greatly to them feeling like I'm treating them like an adult. However, I also like them to do the same, and I do not feel as if they are - yet - as considerate of my feelings. I will press for this, however. I will not be disrespected - they would not do it to a friend.

(your high schooler is still young. I didn't adopt this until mine turned 18)

[Anonymous]

Older teens/young adults get bratty at Christmas - on actual Christmas. I think it must have something to do with much of Christmas being a childhood activity. They are conflicted and maybe feel uneasy in how it all fits in with their emerging, fragile adulthood - opening of presents, concept of Santa Claus, stockings. All these memories of childhood. And maybe a general dependence on parents/established adults for making "the magic" happen.