Please Share If You Have Recovered From 'Caring Too Much About Win/Loss' of Your Kids Sports

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bring a book. My DS fences so there is a lot of down time during tournaments. We both bring books and while the other parents are pacing and talking non-stop to their kids about their last bout, we are reading. If the book is good, sometimes I keep reading while he fences. Most of the parents are WAY too involved in the bouts. They are coaching from the sidelines, etc. It is kind of sad when you stand back and watch. Most of them help their kids into/out of their fencing jackets, lames, etc even when the kid can do it themselves. Take a deep breath and remember that it is okay that your child will not make a living as a competitive ___________. Think about what the sport is teaching your child. My child learns patience (fencing tournaments take HOURS), good sportsmanship (sometimes he wins and sometimes his friends win), judgement, etc. Will they learn these lessons if you are acting like a maniac? Probably not.

so did you recover from caring too much before or you just felt superior and had to lecture?

NP here. I thought it's good advice and I don't think PP was trying to come off as superior. OP asked for these types of comments.

Superior? No. The OP asked and I answered. My mom used to drop me off at my basketball and lacrosse games and practices and pick me up when they were over. These days, parents are way too involved in their kids' sports. If you can't leave your child at the practice/game, my suggestion was a distraction. Haven't you ever heard or seen another parents act/behave in a way that you never want to act? I have and the solution is to be mindful of what you are doing. I think it also helps if your child is in a sport that you don't know anything about. It's difficult to argue with coaches or referees when you don't know what's going on!