I came out about my husbands mental illness

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Hey, stop criticizing the OP.

Intelligent people who research information thoroughly can come to useful informal diagnoses, even without the benefit of a medical degree. I'm a research scientist and have made much better judgements than my doctor husband about my children's health and learning disabilities. He acknowledges it himself (in retrospect, of course!).

For OP to come to this point, who knows how long she suffered in isolation? Years, perhaps. Don't dismiss such a traumatic period of self-doubt and crazy-making so disparagingly.

OP, first protect yourself and your children. If your husband refuses to get medical help, he's on his own. My FIL has bipolar disorder, and my MIL is a saint for having supported him all these years. DH and his brothers have learned to help with material issues, but disengage themselves emotionally from their father.
Best of luck.

To research and assume someone has an illness, is one thing. To do that and then go to his family and his friends and tell them all that he has this condition, if fucked up.

My therapist has told me never to diagnose people but it is ok to talk about his unwanted behaviors. OP's husband is being abusive and erratic and manipulative. She can talk about that and get support from family and friends. She can say that he needs help and that she will need some support in getting him help. There is nothing wrong with that but discussing a diagnosis is not a good idea until a professional has come to a conclusion about him.