How to stop torturing myself

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that he can see that you are viewing his photos since you are friends? He's having the last laugh here so stop stalking his and the new gf's FB pages and move on.

No, you can't see when people look at your photos on FB. He might be able to guess that she is but there's no record to see who's looking at your photos.

Yes there is, I've seen it.

Shut up old lady and go back to aol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my long term BF a few months ago. I wasn't happy in the relationship and realized it wasn't going anywhere. My BF took it really hard. At one time he had told me he would probably kill himself if I ever broke up with him. Of course, he didn't kill himself, and seems to be doing fine. Things are also going well for me, I have a new BF who I like alot and get along with. We are taking it slow because I really don't want to hurt anyone again the way I hurt my previous BF.
How am I torturing myself? I continue to check the ex-s FB page daily and noticed he is in a new relationship. So of course I looked up his new GF and she seems really nice. I should be happy for them, right? Instead, I feel terrible and constantly check FB for updates. They just posted a "couples" picture for Thanksgiving and, even though I don't think I would ever want to date him again, I feel so sad!! They look very happy and I feel jealous of the new GF!
So how can I make myself stop checking FB and making myself crazy looking at these pictures?
Any advice appreciated!

Don't look back, or you'll turn into a pillar of salt.

[Anonymous]

Unfriend and delete his phone number from your cell. You can do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop stalking him. He moved on and probably to someone better. Let them be.

OP here, Thanks to all the very helpful responses, except for the one above. That one was just mean.

I have blocked him from FB and Instagram and am feeling better already.

Thanks everyone!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? You sound like you're about 19.

I'm 22 if it makes a difference.

Yes, it does. You are young, and it shows in the lack of maturity you are displaying in your posts. That is not meant to be an insult; it is simply a fact.

I understand, as do most of us, what it is like to go through one's first major break-up. We've all been there, all survived and most of us come out on the other end just fine. Most likely, this will not be your last break-up, either -- but take comfort in the fact that subsequent ones are never quite as bad.

You've gotten some good advice here. The only thing I will add is to try to tone down the drama in your thinking and your actions will then follow-- "torturing yourself," for example, is a bit extreme. You made what you believed and still seem to believe was a smart decision. Life is all about decisions -- some we later regret, but hopefully, you learn from that and acquire skills and experience that will help you next time. Now, you have to move on and focus on your life and your next steps. What he is doing now is not relevant to your life anymore.

You have your whole adult life ahead of you. Look forwards, not backwards.

+1 This is why I really only date older mature women. The one exception I made I somehow regret because she displayed the same immaturity as OP.

Continue focusing on your education and career goals OP. Truth is, the man is happier and found greener pastures after you did him a favor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? You sound like you're about 19.

I'm 22 if it makes a difference.

Yes, it does. You are young, and it shows in the lack of maturity you are displaying in your posts. That is not meant to be an insult; it is simply a fact.

I understand, as do most of us, what it is like to go through one's first major break-up. We've all been there, all survived and most of us come out on the other end just fine. Most likely, this will not be your last break-up, either -- but take comfort in the fact that subsequent ones are never quite as bad.

You've gotten some good advice here. The only thing I will add is to try to tone down the drama in your thinking and your actions will then follow-- "torturing yourself," for example, is a bit extreme. You made what you believed and still seem to believe was a smart decision. Life is all about decisions -- some we later regret, but hopefully, you learn from that and acquire skills and experience that will help you next time. Now, you have to move on and focus on your life and your next steps. What he is doing now is not relevant to your life anymore.

You have your whole adult life ahead of you. Look forwards, not backwards.

+1 This is why I really only date older mature women. The one exception I made I somehow regret because she displayed the same immaturity as OP.

Continue focusing on your education and career goals OP. Truth is, the man is happier and found greener pastures after you did him a favor!

Wow, you are one nasty sob. I pity any woman who dates you, loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? You sound like you're about 19.

I'm 22 if it makes a difference.

Yes, it does. You are young, and it shows in the lack of maturity you are displaying in your posts. That is not meant to be an insult; it is simply a fact.

I understand, as do most of us, what it is like to go through one's first major break-up. We've all been there, all survived and most of us come out on the other end just fine. Most likely, this will not be your last break-up, either -- but take comfort in the fact that subsequent ones are never quite as bad.

You've gotten some good advice here. The only thing I will add is to try to tone down the drama in your thinking and your actions will then follow-- "torturing yourself," for example, is a bit extreme. You made what you believed and still seem to believe was a smart decision. Life is all about decisions -- some we later regret, but hopefully, you learn from that and acquire skills and experience that will help you next time. Now, you have to move on and focus on your life and your next steps. What he is doing now is not relevant to your life anymore.

You have your whole adult life ahead of you. Look forwards, not backwards.

+1 This is why I really only date older mature women. The one exception I made I somehow regret because she displayed the same immaturity as OP.

Continue focusing on your education and career goals OP. Truth is, the man is happier and found greener pastures after you did him a favor!

Wow, you are one nasty sob. I pity any woman who dates you, loser.

On the contrary they love me because I am fully honest with them and treat them all like princesses and queens.
If you have a problem with hearing the truth, no matter how it stings, then I pity the people who you date.

P.S. Don't let me tell you where on YOUR person a 'nasty sob' is.

[Anonymous]

"On the contrary they love me because I am fully honest with them and treat them all like princesses and queens.
If you have a problem with hearing the truth, no matter how it stings, then I pity the people who you date.

P.S. Don't let me tell you where on YOUR person a 'nasty sob' is. "


Let your words speak for themselves. There is something seriously wrong with you.