Could a relationship like this actually exist?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I agree with the previous posters - you need to work on yourself first.

And relationships like that aren't build on how your stomach looks. Yes, it would be good to be in shape to start a relationship, but that's not what creates this kind of respect, for you or a future DH.

You might consider therapy to work on yourself and your outlook and view of people. It also might help you develop strategies to find a man with a potential for this kind of relationship -- ie to avoid jerks and losers later.

[Anonymous]

You can have this kind of relationship, your own version at least. Been with my husband almost 20 years, we have this kind of relationship, we have naughty sex are best friends. We do have our ups and downs like anyone, but I am very happy. Good luck in your search.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's called a happy marriage, and it exists. It might not go exactly as you idealize it, but the feeling of being loved and accepted is the criitical thing. And your tummy insecurities will for your partner be some other physical imperfection that you too accept as part of the person you love.

[Anonymous]

I do believe that "True Love" relationships definitely are possible. I think this is more probable when both partners take good care of themselves. Some prior posters seem to have mistaken "true love" for "I can stop caring for myself"

[Anonymous]

Yep, even my grandma got remarried at 86! Sooo happy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please be kind. I am in the process of divorcing someone with emotional verbal and substance abuse issues after kids and almost two decades of marriage, so please don't be too nasty if your answer is no.

I knew a couple who married after each has lost a spouse in their early 60s. The husband just died at 99. The wife is still living.

As he was dying, the wife, who is frail and in her 90s herself, helped take care of him, including cleaning up messes from tubes and so forth, but mostly what she did was to tell him it was ok to go and to thank him for taking such good care of her. He was very angry about dying because he promised her he would never make her go through losing a husband twice. Well, when lung cancer gets you at 99, there is not much you can do.

I'm going to be 50 in a couple of years. I hate that, although I am drop-dead skinny, my stomach looks like a freak show unless I lay on my back (woman on top? NO thank you). I don't want to be anyone's trophy wife (you can be a trophy wife at 50 if the guy's old enough - yuk) or booty call or just to have.

I want a relationship where I can be myself. Where I can say, "I hate being on top because my stomach looks like crap (and he can either convince me he doesn't mind or respects that decision). I want someone who wants me. All of me. The smart me, the good dresser me, the great job me, the mom me, the naughty me, the well-read me, the trashy comedy me, The Voice addict me. I want someone who will kiss me when I get home, and not just out of duty. If I am doing something, I want someone who will come put his hand on the small of my back and whisper something naughty in my ear as long as he is able. But I also want someone whose hand I can hold well after the rocking chair years, who I can tell, thanks for letting me be myself, and maybe even thank you for taking such good care of me as I wipe whatever away from his tubes. Or maybe the shoes will be reversed, and he will say, thank you for sharing this part of your life with me. Thank you for bringing the joy that was missing back to me. Thank you for giving me a real marriage.

Does such a thing exist?

Of course this exists. This is a happy marriage! I have a marriage exactly as you describe. However, it does take TWO to be healthy and happy.