Did your DD tell you the first time she had sex?

[Anonymous]

I told my dad a couple years after the fact.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

A 17 year old sophomore in college?

Yeah, she started college at 16, and was 17 for the first three and a half months of her second year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 30's never married and I could never tell my mother I've had sex she would hate me and be so disappointed, disgusted, humiliated .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

Do you normally keep things from your spouse? I wouldn't be happy if my spouse kept secrets from me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

Do you normally keep things from your spouse? I wouldn't be happy if my spouse kept secrets from me.

When it's something of no consequence, sure, I keep their secrets. If it's about their health or something big then I'd tell him. Actually, normally I encourage the kids to tell him. He doesn't need to know our 7 yr old is upset her friend called her a goody two-shoes so she doesn't want to give her the Halloween treat she wants to bring in for all her friends. So yeah I keep their secrets that are inconsequential all the time. My older DD wanted to think about telling him, and then do it in her own time, in her own way.

I don't keep secrets about our money, friends or my health or the kids health.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

Do you normally keep things from your spouse? I wouldn't be happy if my spouse kept secrets from me.

She kept her daughters trust. The daughter was in no harm and it is not a big deal. It wasn't a secret he had to know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

Do you normally keep things from your spouse? I wouldn't be happy if my spouse kept secrets from me.

She kept her daughters trust. The daughter was in no harm and it is not a big deal. It wasn't a secret he had to know.

+1- Totally agree with this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

Do you normally keep things from your spouse? I wouldn't be happy if my spouse kept secrets from me.

She kept her daughters trust. The daughter was in no harm and it is not a big deal. It wasn't a secret he had to know.

+1. When it comes to the DD's, my DH is prone to overreact. If I had told him, it would have been a big issue. The net result would have been that DD's would not have felt comfortable coming to me for fear that I would bring DH into it. I fully believe that kids need to have at least one parent they can confide in who will not betray their secrets. That is the only way for parents to be in the loop. The LAST thing a parent should want is their kids not wanting to confide in them and goig elsewhere (peers) for advice and guidance. Now, I do tell DH about things that he needs to know. Health issue? Yes. First period? No.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD was 17, a sophomore in college. She called me the next day and I could tell something was up but she didn't say it. Then she Facetime'd me the next day after that and told me. I asked how she felt about it, and later, if she needed any help getting protection and we reviewed sex safety. Then she texted to ask me not to tell her father.

Did you tell him?

Nope. But a couple of months later she came home for the holidays and brought a boy. So I'm pretty sure he figured it out.

Were you married? I don't keep anything from my husband. Weird

It's not weird. It's just different from you. Had I been dead she'd have told him, but he didn't need to know for health purposes and she let him know a couple of months later.

Do you normally keep things from your spouse? I wouldn't be happy if my spouse kept secrets from me.

She kept her daughters trust. The daughter was in no harm and it is not a big deal. It wasn't a secret he had to know.

+100. It's not the wife's secret to keep. Not that it is a secret, but just as you said the daughter's trust. Very healthy.

[Anonymous]

Nope.