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[Anonymous]

What I would do if I were in your shoes since you do have 20 years invested in this marriage is to first seek individual therapy first. Find yourself a good therapist, someone you feel 100% comfortable speaking with about these tough issues and see what happens.

If after some time, things still do not get resolved or at least improve, then I think it just may be time to throw in the towel.

But at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you did EVERYTHING in your power to salvage your marriage vs. just giving up and walking away.

[Anonymous]

Thanks. I may need to throw in the towel sooner than I thought - my H told me this morning that he preferred to self satisfy rather than be with me, so I think it's too late for therapy if I want a normal sex life.