how to officialize a separation?

[Anonymous]

If you are living in a separate bedroom you are already officially separated in VA. I lived the first 8 months of my separation sharing a roof with my now-ex. All VA cares about is whether or not you are sleeping together. One of you will have to file an affadavit as part of your divorce agreement claiming an official date of when you stopped sharing a marital bed.

You have to be separated a year before you can legally divorce in VA if kids are involved, so it sounds like you are pretty close to being able to legally divorce if you've been sleeping apart for a number of months.

I do not think it makes sense to move the entire, separated family to a new city to start over. That is way too much for the kids to handle and a very difficult, frankly kind of strange way to make a "fresh start" for you and your (future) ex. Your wife seems to be thinking a bit more clearly about this particular issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are living in a separate bedroom you are already officially separated in VA. I lived the first 8 months of my separation sharing a roof with my now-ex. All VA cares about is whether or not you are sleeping together. One of you will have to file an affadavit as part of your divorce agreement claiming an official date of when you stopped sharing a marital bed.

You have to be separated a year before you can legally divorce in VA if kids are involved, so it sounds like you are pretty close to being able to legally divorce if you've been sleeping apart for a number of months.

I do not think it makes sense to move the entire, separated family to a new city to start over. That is way too much for the kids to handle and a very difficult, frankly kind of strange way to make a "fresh start" for you and your (future) ex. Your wife seems to be thinking a bit more clearly about this particular issue.

I think the OP would like to move because the wife is not working and he would be able to cover the expenses of two residences if they moved to a cheaper place.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone know the rules in MD.

TIA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone know the rules in MD.

TIA.

My husband and I had to live separately (not sleep under same roof or spend 24 hours together) and not have sexual relations with each other.

I asked him to move out, which he did. We actually didn't see each other at all for about 2 months after that. My lawyer filed the paperwork and contacted him until he had a lawyer.