Thin Shaming

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You weren't fat before. I have heavy friends, thin friends and have also recently lost 20 lbs. none of the issues you describe. Do you come off braggy or judgmental? You sound it.

size 8 is big

I am a size 8. I'm 5 feet 8 inches and 135 lbs. I don't think I'm big, but compared to a size 2, I imagine I'd be enormous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I feel like I can't win. I lost about 20 pounds this summer taking me from a size 8 to a size 4. I feel great, my confidence is up and my Dh and I are having a lot more sex. However, I am finding that women were nicer to me when I was a size 8. It may be that I am in an area where there are A LOT of heavy people, but I feel like I am being treated different because I am thin. We went out to eat the other night with "friends" and they made fun of me for choosing the fish and veggies and for having only one beer, they just wouldn't let it go. I will say I am getting a lot more attention from guys, but I am already married and we're new to the area and I'm trying to make girl friends. I'm just angry that it has come to the point where I feel out of place and shamed for trying to be healthy.

Stop faking it, OP.

No one gives a rat's ass about how skinny you are. Furthermore, you realize that an 8 is a 10 in disguise. So your 4 isn't really a 4.

OP, I assume this is what you were talking about? PP has size 20 written all over her post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I feel like I can't win. I lost about 20 pounds this summer taking me from a size 8 to a size 4. I feel great, my confidence is up and my Dh and I are having a lot more sex. However, I am finding that women were nicer to me when I was a size 8. It may be that I am in an area where there are A LOT of heavy people, but I feel like I am being treated different because I am thin. We went out to eat the other night with "friends" and they made fun of me for choosing the fish and veggies and for having only one beer, they just wouldn't let it go. I will say I am getting a lot more attention from guys, but I am already married and we're new to the area and I'm trying to make girl friends. I'm just angry that it has come to the point where I feel out of place and shamed for trying to be healthy.

Stop faking it, OP.

No one gives a rat's ass about how skinny you are. Furthermore, you realize that an 8 is a 10 in disguise. So your 4 isn't really a 4.

OP, I assume this is what you were talking about? PP has size 20 written all over her post.

no - I am 14:41.

[Anonymous]

I would maybe try to see if you're being preachy or doing that whole "zealotry of the recent convert" thing where you act like you're the first person who ever discovered healthy eating or exercise and now you have to tell everyone else the error of their ways. Not saying you are necessarily doing that, just saying that would be one reason for the reaction you're getting.

Also, if your new eating habits mean that it takes you 10 minutes to order at a restaurant - that can be pretty annoying. I have friends like that and after they've asked about the calorie content of 6 different entrees and made 3 substitutions, I want to scream.

Third possibility is that nobody cares and you're being sensitive and upset because you wanted only positive feedback. when frankly, most people might not care. you weren't obese before, just a normal size going to a smaller normal size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I feel like I can't win. I lost about 20 pounds this summer taking me from a size 8 to a size 4. I feel great, my confidence is up and my Dh and I are having a lot more sex. However, I am finding that women were nicer to me when I was a size 8. It may be that I am in an area where there are A LOT of heavy people, but I feel like I am being treated different because I am thin. We went out to eat the other night with "friends" and they made fun of me for choosing the fish and veggies and for having only one beer, they just wouldn't let it go. I will say I am getting a lot more attention from guys, but I am already married and we're new to the area and I'm trying to make girl friends. I'm just angry that it has come to the point where I feel out of place and shamed for trying to be healthy.

Stop faking it, OP.

No one gives a rat's ass about how skinny you are. Furthermore, you realize that an 8 is a 10 in disguise. So your 4 isn't really a 4.

OP, I assume this is what you were talking about? PP has size 20 written all over her post.

no - I am 14:41.

BS. I'm 14:41. Stop lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You weren't fat before. I have heavy friends, thin friends and have also recently lost 20 lbs. none of the issues you describe. Do you come off braggy or judgmental? You sound it.

size 8 is big

um no its not

It is not in america.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You weren't fat before. I have heavy friends, thin friends and have also recently lost 20 lbs. none of the issues you describe. Do you come off braggy or judgmental? You sound it.

size 8 is big

I am a size 8. I'm 5 feet 8 inches and 135 lbs. I don't think I'm big, but compared to a size 2, I imagine I'd be enormous.

I'm a size 14 and outweigh my size 2 friends by 60 pounds, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would maybe try to see if you're being preachy or doing that whole "zealotry of the recent convert" thing where you act like you're the first person who ever discovered healthy eating or exercise and now you have to tell everyone else the error of their ways. Not saying you are necessarily doing that, just saying that would be one reason for the reaction you're getting.

Also, if your new eating habits mean that it takes you 10 minutes to order at a restaurant - that can be pretty annoying. I have friends like that and after they've asked about the calorie content of 6 different entrees and made 3 substitutions, I want to scream.

Third possibility is that nobody cares and you're being sensitive and upset because you wanted only positive feedback. when frankly, most people might not care. you weren't obese before, just a normal size going to a smaller normal size.

It's probably all three possibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would maybe try to see if you're being preachy or doing that whole "zealotry of the recent convert" thing where you act like you're the first person who ever discovered healthy eating or exercise and now you have to tell everyone else the error of their ways. Not saying you are necessarily doing that, just saying that would be one reason for the reaction you're getting.

Also, if your new eating habits mean that it takes you 10 minutes to order at a restaurant - that can be pretty annoying. I have friends like that and after they've asked about the calorie content of 6 different entrees and made 3 substitutions, I want to scream.

Third possibility is that nobody cares and you're being sensitive and upset because you wanted only positive feedback. when frankly, most people might not care. you weren't obese before, just a normal size going to a smaller normal size.

OP here and as I said my husband and I are very active so we were talking about our hobbies, but I don't think we were doing it in a negative way. We were going to go geocaching the next day on our hike so we were asking anyone if they wanted to join us. One couple laughed and asked us why we would want to spend the day hiking. As far as ordering food goes, I knew I wanted fish as soon as I saw it on the menu. I actually probably made my mind up the fastest. As I said in a pp, maybe I am being too sensitive. I'm just trying to make new friends and it's hard when they all already know each other and they seemed so quick to judge about the fish, the hiking, and only having one beer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would maybe try to see if you're being preachy or doing that whole "zealotry of the recent convert" thing where you act like you're the first person who ever discovered healthy eating or exercise and now you have to tell everyone else the error of their ways. Not saying you are necessarily doing that, just saying that would be one reason for the reaction you're getting.

Also, if your new eating habits mean that it takes you 10 minutes to order at a restaurant - that can be pretty annoying. I have friends like that and after they've asked about the calorie content of 6 different entrees and made 3 substitutions, I want to scream.

Third possibility is that nobody cares and you're being sensitive and upset because you wanted only positive feedback. when frankly, most people might not care. you weren't obese before, just a normal size going to a smaller normal size.

OP here and as I said my husband and I are very active so we were talking about our hobbies, but I don't think we were doing it in a negative way. We were going to go geocaching the next day on our hike so we were asking anyone if they wanted to join us. One couple laughed and asked us why we would want to spend the day hiking. As far as ordering food goes, I knew I wanted fish as soon as I saw it on the menu. I actually probably made my mind up the fastest. As I said in a pp, maybe I am being too sensitive. I'm just trying to make new friends and it's hard when they all already know each other and they seemed so quick to judge about the fish, the hiking, and only having one beer.

If your friends are laughing about you going hiking - maybe you need new friends.

[Anonymous]

Find new friends. It's a big world out there. It doesn't seem like these are people you want to hang out with anyways.

[Anonymous]

OP, something tells me that you probably talk about yourself too much. That makes making new friends very hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You weren't fat before. I have heavy friends, thin friends and have also recently lost 20 lbs. none of the issues you describe. Do you come off braggy or judgmental? You sound it.

size 8 is big

I am a size 8. I'm 5 feet 8 inches and 135 lbs. I don't think I'm big, but compared to a size 2, I imagine I'd be enormous.

How are you an 8? (and at what store?) I'm 5'8", 135 and I'm a 2 most places, 4 at a few -and a 0 at Loft, but their vanity sizing is out of control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find new friends. It's a big world out there. It doesn't seem like these are people you want to hang out with anyways.

I agree, it's just hard when you move to a new area. Plus the husbands work with my DH, so I wanted to make an effort.

[Anonymous]

The midwest is totally into the big heavy meals and fried fatty foods. That is total meat and potato land.

Just ignore the haters.