Does anyone feel sad or upset when they encounter pregnant fertility center staff?

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Now that you've been cruel to someone you feel all better, good. Your weekend will be fabulous.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Actually I think this is the least entitled "others are pregnant and I'm not" posts I've ever seen on DCUM

EVERY "others are pregnant and I'm not" post is entitled. These nurses are supposed to quit their jobs because OP is defective?

Are you reading a different thread than me? I don't see anywhere where it says she thinks they should quit. Btw I haven't suffered from infertility so before you attack me in that regard (and I hope others don't mind my posting) but I have worked with pregnant nurses at fertility clinics and they are well aware of how it makes the patients feel. There was one nurse who requested to switch to another doctor as several of her patients had fairly serious issues and prospects didn't look good and she was a newlywed so understood how it would make them feel.

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Anonymous wrote:I was wondering what happens if one of the nurses was pregnant at the fertility clinic. In my mind I thought they would hide them away to do desk work until after they gave birth. I guess not! My nurse just got married so I'm sure she will be pregnant before me....

You sound crazy. Her personal and family life doesn't stop because your have fertility issues. Do you think the clinic wants to pay her to hide?
You sound self entitled.

Well pp put it a little harsh, but I think this is what other pp was talking about when she said the only thing you have control over is how you choose to handle it. I agree with fake it til you make it. I did a clinical rotation at a fertility clinic and there were 2 pregnant nurses. They were VERY aware of how their pregnancy would impact the patients. But the reality is that desk jobs aren't a huge part of the nursing world so they can't "hide them away" until after they give birth.

Nor should they. Pregnancy is a real thing and it's illegal.

True, although I had a nurse friend who worked at a women's clinic that performed abortions and her contract explicitly stated that if she got pregnant, she would be moved to a different part of the clinic where she had no interaction with those having an abortion or considering one. When she did get pregnant and started showing, she was moved to STD screening and paperwork. It wouldn't surprise me if other clinics had something similar or maybe even a fertility clinic.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Actually I think this is the least entitled "others are pregnant and I'm not" posts I've ever seen on DCUM

Just want to add, showing intial emotion (jealousy, surprise, etc) isn't entitled. Entitled would be asking for a different nurse because they couldn't have a pregnant one, complaining to the office manager that it was insensitive to have pregnant nurses and insist they either be hidden from patients or put on leave. Those are entitled. Having a normal emotional reaction that you keep to yourself is NOT entitled.

I don't think it's a normal emotional reaction. I always bite my tongue when I see these posts because they seem so incredibly mean spirited. You feel bad because someone else is pregnant -- something that would bring you yourself joy? That is so sick to me. It's hateful. Because you are suffering with infertility doesn't mean you should be feeling that way toward other women.

Maybe take a step back from DCUM. It does bring out the dark side of people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Actually I think this is the least entitled "others are pregnant and I'm not" posts I've ever seen on DCUM

Just want to add, showing intial emotion (jealousy, surprise, etc) isn't entitled. Entitled would be asking for a different nurse because they couldn't have a pregnant one, complaining to the office manager that it was insensitive to have pregnant nurses and insist they either be hidden from patients or put on leave. Those are entitled. Having a normal emotional reaction that you keep to yourself is NOT entitled.

This x 1,000.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Actually I think this is the least entitled "others are pregnant and I'm not" posts I've ever seen on DCUM

Just want to add, showing intial emotion (jealousy, surprise, etc) isn't entitled. Entitled would be asking for a different nurse because they couldn't have a pregnant one, complaining to the office manager that it was insensitive to have pregnant nurses and insist they either be hidden from patients or put on leave. Those are entitled. Having a normal emotional reaction that you keep to yourself is NOT entitled.

I don't think it's a normal emotional reaction. I always bite my tongue when I see these posts because they seem so incredibly mean spirited. You feel bad because someone else is pregnant -- something that would bring you yourself joy? That is so sick to me. It's hateful. Because you are suffering with infertility doesn't mean you should be feeling that way toward other women.

Maybe take a step back from DCUM. It does bring out the dark side of people.

I haven't suffered from infertility. But feeling jealous (and jealousy can come out in feeling angry, sad, or similar emotion) is a pretty normal reaction for anyone to have when someone else has something you want and do not have. maybe 1 or 2 people were mean spirited on here, but mostly the sentiments have been "yup I feel jealous and it sucks. But I have to suck it up and get over it"

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I think SG does hide or attempt to keep them at a lower profile when they are pregnant. I seem to remember my asking about a nurse I hadn't seen in a while and was told she had a baby. My RE is an older guy - I guess another reason they can do well in that line of work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Actually I think this is the least entitled "others are pregnant and I'm not" posts I've ever seen on DCUM

EVERY "others are pregnant and I'm not" post is entitled. These nurses are supposed to quit their jobs because OP is defective?

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Not everybody here is 40...I'm 28 and started trying as soon as hubby gave me the ok. I never imagined myself here, especially since my period has always been regular. I thought it would just happen just like it does to everybody else...but nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

I wish this forum required a login, because you sound like the same miserable poster that always chimes in with something cruel and insensitive. You are awesome, flawless and lead a charmed life--congrats.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Not everybody here is 40...I'm 28 and started trying as soon as hubby gave me the ok. I never imagined myself here, especially since my period has always been regular. I thought it would just happen just like it does to everybody else...but nothing.

PP, I am sorry you had to deal with IF at such an younger age. The poster you respodned too is clearly ignorant and had never been to an IF clinic. Just a quick scan in the waiting room, would show her that most patients are in their 20ies to early 30ies. I started at 34 and ended up in an IF clininc within months. The RE did nto take me seriously because I was not "old enough". Until he run few tests and discovered a medical condition that would have prevented pregnancy in my 20ies too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Actually I think this is the least entitled "others are pregnant and I'm not" posts I've ever seen on DCUM

Just want to add, showing intial emotion (jealousy, surprise, etc) isn't entitled. Entitled would be asking for a different nurse because they couldn't have a pregnant one, complaining to the office manager that it was insensitive to have pregnant nurses and insist they either be hidden from patients or put on leave. Those are entitled. Having a normal emotional reaction that you keep to yourself is NOT entitled.

I don't think it's a normal emotional reaction. I always bite my tongue when I see these posts because they seem so incredibly mean spirited. You feel bad because someone else is pregnant -- something that would bring you yourself joy? That is so sick to me. It's hateful. Because you are suffering with infertility doesn't mean you should be feeling that way toward other women.

Maybe take a step back from DCUM. It does bring out the dark side of people.

Have you suffered from infertility? If you have, then you are truly above all normal human emotion. Good for you.

If you haven't, let me tell you that going through infertility and treatments is complete hell. It is anguish and disappointment and helplessness and anger that your body won't do something that seems so normal and so easy for so many people. I have two kids and it has been years since I've been in the thick of these emotions, but I can read threads like these and still recall those feelings in a heartbeat. And I will always think people like you are clueless and lack human decency and any empathy at all. Whether you're real or a troll, GO AWAY.

OP, it is totally normal to feel the way you're feeling. And as other posters have said, you make the best of it. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I am a new poster. I don't know if I cast a spell but whichever nurse I work with turns out to be pregnant in a few months. I have tried 3 different clinics. I feel sad (not bad) when friends get pregnant but nurses' pregnancies have never affected me since I don't know them outside of the clinics. Also, all these nurses whom I saw pregnant were pretty young, so I give it to them. They aren't AMA's and DOR's like me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was wondering what happens if one of the nurses was pregnant at the fertility clinic. In my mind I thought they would hide them away to do desk work until after they gave birth. I guess not! My nurse just got married so I'm sure she will be pregnant before me....

You sound crazy. Her personal and family life doesn't stop because your have fertility issues. Do you think the clinic wants to pay her to hide?
You sound self entitled.

I'm actually one of the sanest and selfless people I know I was actually being half serious when I asked about the nurses being pregnant at the fertility clinic. All the ladies seem young and I have yet to see anyone pregnant - and I've been there on and off for a solid year. And I was being ironic about my nurse getting pregnant before me - and if it happened I would be quite happy for her. Irony doesn't always translate well over the internet. I'm not a bitter person by any stretch.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how entitled you all sound. The world doesn't owe you a baby, and everyone around you can't stop having babies just because you waited til 40 to start trying. Grow up.

Not everybody here is 40...I'm 28 and started trying as soon as hubby gave me the ok. I never imagined myself here, especially since my period has always been regular. I thought it would just happen just like it does to everybody else...but nothing.

PP, I am sorry you had to deal with IF at such an younger age. The poster you respodned too is clearly ignorant and had never been to an IF clinic. Just a quick scan in the waiting room, would show her that most patients are in their 20ies to early 30ies. I started at 34 and ended up in an IF clininc within months. The RE did nto take me seriously because I was not "old enough". Until he run few tests and discovered a medical condition that would have prevented pregnancy in my 20ies too.

I'm glad they were able to find the problem for you and that it was an easy fix.... We are unexplained. My RE even said "I don't see any reason you can't be pregnant in 6 months". I knew something was wrong after ttc 9 months and all my friends told me I "just needed a vacation". Well now after waiting the full year ttc plus 3 failed iuis, I kinda feel vindicated that something is indeed wrong but geez it'd be nice if we knew what.