Online first date gained 5-10 pounds

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to be honest and no one wants someone constantly fighting obesity in their genes

And nobody wants someone as stupid as you!

[Anonymous]

Take a new picture of yourself and see if he is still interested. You seem really insecure. Maybe put off dating until you can be confident in your own body. Your attitude, not your weight would be a turnoff to me.

However, some guys love dating insecure recent divorcees. They are usually pretty easy and down for anything.

[Anonymous]

When I read anything about dating on DCUM, I remember the line in When Harry Met Sally where Carrie Fisher says to her date, "promise me I'll never be out there again..."

If I had to play these games, market myself, tell dumb assed stories over and over, and be rated on some idiotic, demeaning scale, I would consider joining a religious order. Seriously, look at this week's Date Lab. These two look like normal people comfortable with themselves. Are these the only two in the DC area like this?

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/date-lab-after-a-rocky-start-this-date-came-through-in-the-clutch/2014/07/02/b077bb40-f0e2-11e3-914c-1fbd0614e2d4_story.html

[Anonymous]

5-10 lbs on 5'9" is NOT a big deal. I think you're the only one who will even notice!

[Anonymous]

Is it a boxing match or a date? I didn't know there are official weigh-ins for dates. How is he going to know if you're 5 pounds over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who's really into fitness. 10lbs shouldn't even be noticeable to anyone who doesn't know your body very intimately. While you my notice you are more soft in some areas most men won't notice or care. Hell, they might even enjoy it.

that it ridiculous. ten pounds is HUGE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5-10 lbs on 5'9" is NOT a big deal. I think you're the only one who will even notice!

It's a whole dress size. I would hold off on the date until you feel very confident in yourself. OLD is brutal.

[Anonymous]

Clearly the mean drunks are out tonight and hopefully you have already been on a successful first date! Wishing you well op and no one is going to notice the weight but you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly the mean drunks are out tonight and hopefully you have already been on a successful first date! Wishing you well op and no one is going to notice the weight but you.

Yeah, seriously! Is there just one weirdo who keeps coming back or three?

Good luck OP! Enjoy your date!

[Anonymous]

Good decision to go through with the date. In online dating, you can miss your shot at meeting at all if you wait too long. It implies you have something to hide. Also, confidence is more important than anything.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? If you are concerned that he may not like you or be attracted to you for 5-10 lbs then he is not worth knowing. That would be a major red flag for me, sounds like your self esteem took a beating. 5-10 lbs is not much. Go if you want to go, or wait but please do not do it for that reason...you will find yourself forever in a cycle of lingering self judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 10 pounds up since having a baby and nobody notices.

Let's get real hear. Who the fuck is going to say something to you about it anyways? People yo-yo all the time. I notice it, but don't say "Hey, you're looking a little fat over there or is that a bag of nickels you just sat on?"

[Anonymous]

If you are noticeably heavier in person vs. your picture...that is not cool.

I went on a date with someone who was using pictures that were obviously 10 years old and 15-20 lbs ago.

Not cool.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Must wanted to update my supporters

Did the date and it went we'll enough that we are going out tomorrow night.

Have a gear night!

[Anonymous]

yay OP! 5-10lbs on a tall frame is nothing!