Divorced mom - where to meet people?

[Anonymous]

I had good luck on OkCupid and Match.com. I also met a lot of great guys through my single parent's meet-up group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Met my ex out and about IRL. He's a man of poor character, verbally abusive and a jerk. Met my BF on OKC and he's mature, has integrity and treats me with respect. Took a while to find him, but he is way better than the guy I wound up with when I was single with no kids, just starting out. I chose badly for sure the first go around. BF does not view my kids as "baggage." That is such a sad way to look at the situation and I would run from any man that thought of my family that way.

Don't mean to be snarky but you chose your ex either knowing that he was of "poor character, verbally abusive and a jerk" or knowing it you ignore it. So you were either a poor judge of people or willing to overlook all of this when you hitched up with him. You now think you have found someone who is the antithesis of your ex.

Maybe you have ......... but unless you know what went wrong in your previous relationship, you are likely to repeat the cycle. It is the reason that second marriages have an even higher failure rate than first marriages. It takes some soul-searching but I would venture to say that at least some of the fault lies with you with regard to your failed relationship. Rarely is it just one person who is all to blame.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the same scenario and I've had good luck on OKCUpid. Be honest and forthright about what you are looking for and it will save you a lot of time. I have met lots of men that are nice (none that are amazing).

Like attracts like. What makes you so amazing that you think you deserve an amazing man?

LOL, you REALLY hate the idea of your Ex wife getting a nice new boyfriend, don't you?

News flash, happens *all* the time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Met my ex out and about IRL. He's a man of poor character, verbally abusive and a jerk. Met my BF on OKC and he's mature, has integrity and treats me with respect. Took a while to find him, but he is way better than the guy I wound up with when I was single with no kids, just starting out. I chose badly for sure the first go around. BF does not view my kids as "baggage." That is such a sad way to look at the situation and I would run from any man that thought of my family that way.

Don't mean to be snarky but you chose your ex either knowing that he was of "poor character, verbally abusive and a jerk" or knowing it you ignore it. So you were either a poor judge of people or willing to overlook all of this when you hitched up with him. You now think you have found someone who is the antithesis of your ex.

Maybe you have ......... but unless you know what went wrong in your previous relationship, you are likely to repeat the cycle. It is the reason that second marriages have an even higher failure rate than first marriages. It takes some soul-searching but I would venture to say that at least some of the fault lies with you with regard to your failed relationship. Rarely is it just one person who is all to blame.

Not the poster you are talking to, but it really can be quite astonishing how people change after marriage - or more specifically, after kids. My ex BIL said of his brother, my ex husband, " John made the transition into married life OK, but fatherhood, not so much". Even his own family acknowledges that something went very wrong with my ex when we had a kid. Formerly nice guy then, not so much. Couldn't bear to truly grow up, I guess.

[Anonymous]

You can try online and hopefully it works for you. For me, the online thing takes away from that immediate attraction you get when you meet someone in real life. Online dating feels more like an interview process and you just go through the motions. Of course it can lead to finding an amazing person....but the amount of time/effort you put in to the searching, reading, and messaging can get depressing after a while.

My suggestion is to find some new friends to do things with. New friends = new friends of friends that you be attracted too. I'm current social circle may not have any good people you are interested in.

Meetup groups are a good way to meet new people. But don't go in to a meetup with the intention of dating someone. Go in with the intention to expand your social circle which in turn will expose you to different activities and people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have another single friend you can go out with on the town? That would be ideal...Even better if she is a single mother as well. Then you both can attend some singles mixers, dances, events, cruises, etc.

If not, have you thought about on-line dating?
It takes a certain amount of courage and confidence to go that route, but if you have both of these attributes, I say give it a shot.

Many couples these days have met on-line + many of these relationships are very successful.

Good luck and have fun!

Problem is two or more women together present something less approachable for guys. Unless, of course, they're super-suave and smooth, in which case they're either snapped up at 23 or they're not all that good of a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had good luck on OkCupid and Match.com. I also met a lot of great guys through my single parent's meet-up group.

how did you find a single parent meetup group? i looked and didn't really see any close to dc. also surprised that there were men there...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had good luck on OkCupid and Match.com. I also met a lot of great guys through my single parent's meet-up group.

how did you find a single parent meetup group? i looked and didn't really see any close to dc. also surprised that there were men there...

Single parent meet up groups sounds like some forced dating scene.

Do some meet-ups that are based on things you like to do (playing cards, hiking, reading, etc.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are 10 and 12, and I work full time. I'm not ready for a serious relationship but I would like to go on a date once in a while. Where am I supposed to meet people?