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[b]Met my ex out and about IRL.  He's a man of poor character, verbally abusive and a jerk.[/b]  Met my BF on OKC and he's mature, has integrity and treats me with respect.  Took a while to find him, but he is way better than the guy I wound up with when I was single with no kids, just starting out. I chose badly for sure the first go around.  BF does not view my kids as "baggage."  That is such a sad way to look at the situation and I would run from any man that thought of my family that way.  [/quote]

Don't mean to be snarky but you chose your ex either knowing that he was of "poor character, verbally abusive and a jerk" or knowing it you ignore it. So you were either a poor judge of people or willing to overlook all of this when you hitched up with him. You now think you have found someone who is the antithesis of your ex.

Maybe you have ......... but unless you know what went wrong in your previous relationship, you are likely to repeat the cycle. It is the reason that second marriages have an even higher failure rate than first marriages. It takes some soul-searching but I would venture to say that at least some of the fault lies with you with regard to your failed relationship. Rarely is it just one person who is all to blame.[/quote]

Not the poster you are talking to, but it really can be quite astonishing how people change after marriage - or more specifically, after kids.  My ex BIL said of his brother, my ex husband, " John made the transition into married life OK, but fatherhood, not so much".  Even his own family acknowledges that something went very wrong with my ex when we had a kid.  Formerly nice guy then, not so much.  Couldn't bear to truly grow up, I guess.  [/quote]

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