dating online - how to determine what type of relationship someone wants?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you everyone for your replies - it is greatly appreciated! I have received a few texts from this guy since our last date on Tuesday and he seems to be very interested in me and wants to go out again next week - after he returns back from a short trip. We had what I would call some really intense kisses so I am assuming he wants to try to take it further. . . . I feel like such a teenager trying to navigate this dating scene! I will try to determine if he wants a casual relationship or is looking for something more long term. Thanks again!

[Anonymous]

Married men all over those sites masquerading as single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was online dating, I figured it took about 4-6 dates to really see if it was going to be a thing. Usually I ended it far before then. So I assumed the guy would, too, if not interested.

Don't sleep with him before you figure out if you are both comfortable with where this is going.

I only chose men who were looking for an LTR. Whether they were serious about that in general, and then about me in particular, became very obvious over that 4-6 date period.

I don't think players would put in all the hard work over a month or two to get you in the sack, especially when they could probably find someone more interested in casual dating pretty easily. Could be wrong today....but that was my experience 10 years ago.

This. Guy here. I was looking for LTR, but found that a lot of women on match are interesting in getting laid. I went out with a few of them -- and while it was physically pleasurable, I felt like I was wasting my time.

For me, dating was about getting to know someone. Not sex. If I wanted sex, that would have been much cheaper through other means.

Some guys have all the luck!