Is Tarynn Brumfitt Encouraging Us to be Fat

[Anonymous]

No, she's encouraging us to say "I am enough". Physical health is a by product of spiritual health. Once you let go of shame and the desire for perfection, good health and with that a healthy weight will generally follow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that I am kind of baffled by people feeling either hatred or love for their bodies. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I can't imagine looking in the mirror and considering surgery because parts of me were too big or too small. I'm developing a bald spot, which I don't love/accept/embrace, but I'm not considering hair plugs, and it won't prevent me from wearing my hair really short (which makes it more obvious) because short hair is convenient.

On the other hand, when I got up to about 35 pounds over a healthy weight, I decided to lose the extra weight. Now I think I look a lot better and my blood pressure is normal rather than borderline high. But this did not involve love or hate for the fat, just a pragmatic decision with no drama required. Why make something that is simple (difficult, but simple) into more than it is?

If this lady is advocating not hating your body, more power to her. That does not, however, mean that people need to accept being over weight.

I love when men brag about losing weight. Do you also have some intercourse techniques that guarantee male orgasm, Dr. Spaceman?

More baffled now. You seem really angry. What are you so mad about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that I am kind of baffled by people feeling either hatred or love for their bodies. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I can't imagine looking in the mirror and considering surgery because parts of me were too big or too small. I'm developing a bald spot, which I don't love/accept/embrace, but I'm not considering hair plugs, and it won't prevent me from wearing my hair really short (which makes it more obvious) because short hair is convenient.

On the other hand, when I got up to about 35 pounds over a healthy weight, I decided to lose the extra weight. Now I think I look a lot better and my blood pressure is normal rather than borderline high. But this did not involve love or hate for the fat, just a pragmatic decision with no drama required. Why make something that is simple (difficult, but simple) into more than it is?

If this lady is advocating not hating your body, more power to her. That does not, however, mean that people need to accept being over weight.

Why is it okay for you to accept your balding head but not for someone to accept their overweight body? Overweight people can still be perfectly healthy.

If accepting being overweight makes someone happy and they are healthy, great. Mainstream medicine tells us that there is a strong correlation between being overweight and a huge range of health problems. I know that there are a couple of frequently cited studies disputing that relationship, but the couple of that I have read were very, very flawed. In my case, when I am heaver and not working out, my blood pressure goes up. If my choices were being overweight and having surgery, I would accept being overweight unless the health risks outweighed the risk of surgery. But, since my weight is something that I can control, I choose to do so. This is a purely pragmatic decision.

My point about hair loss was to say that I have to accept becoming bald (or consider surgery), but I don't have to accept being fat. Being overweight is not physiologically inevitable for the vast majority of people, but I think the message is being put out by some folks who advocate fat acceptance that it IS inevitable. I think that does a big disservice to a lot of people's health and happiness --- as does, of course, any message that people should feel shame for how their bodies look. I think it is a lot healthier to look at things more objectively and do what's healthiest and makes each person happiest.

My other larger point was just that I don't understand the drama --- why do we all have to choose between "loving" and "hating" our bodies? I don't love or hate my hairline --- it just is. I did not hate being fat, but I prefer being thinner --- especially since I can do sports with my kid more easily. Why did the person who wrote the Huffington Post piece care so much about what other people think of her body that she considered surgery to change it? The vast majority of us will never make a living with our looks, so who the hell cares?

[Anonymous]

First of all, she's not overweight in picture #2--I'm guessing she's a healthy weight. Secondly, being significantly overweight/obese definitely has health issues--but she's not advocating being overweight! She's advocating accepting what happens to your body after you have kids, or if it is not perfect! Thirdly, we've had plenty of media images of emaciated women, totally unrealistic for most, and a huge beauty and medical industry promoting extreme thinness as the ideal. And yet, Americans are more and more overweight and obese, so I hardly think that accepting your normal body is going to lead to some epidemic of obesity. If anything, perhaps people will stop yo yo dieting and focus on health, rather than image.

In short, the real culprit for obesity is not women like Tarynn Brumfitt who is telling the world that its actually okay to have a post-baby body, the culprit is the food industry and industrial agriculture which makes and markets really crappy, terrible for you food that many studies have shown can be addictive and can actually change your hormonal response and insulin response. We put ALL the onus on the consumer, but I think the producers have a role in this too. We could all do better by moving more--cities with good p public transportation, walking spaces and bike paths are much healthier. Etc.

Oh, and while being obese is bad for you and extra weight can put a strain on your joints, its not clear that being a bit overweight is such a bad thing after all.

http://www.nbcnews.com/id/21655928/ns/health-diet_and_nutrition/t/being-little-heavy-may-have-some-benefits/#.U34RGDnCJWs

[Anonymous]

LOL at "Dr. Spaceman"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I love when men brag about losing weight. Do you also have some intercourse techniques that guarantee male orgasm, Dr. Spaceman?

Hilarious (and I got your point even if the poster to whom you were responding didn't).

[Anonymous]

She doesn't look fat, she looks like a beautiful mother! With her lovely face she even resembles a renaissance nude: http://www.uffizi.org/artworks/venus-of-urbino-by-titian/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that I am kind of baffled by people feeling either hatred or love for their bodies. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I can't imagine looking in the mirror and considering surgery because parts of me were too big or too small. I'm developing a bald spot, which I don't love/accept/embrace, but I'm not considering hair plugs, and it won't prevent me from wearing my hair really short (which makes it more obvious) because short hair is convenient.

On the other hand, when I got up to about 35 pounds over a healthy weight, I decided to lose the extra weight. Now I think I look a lot better and my blood pressure is normal rather than borderline high. But this did not involve love or hate for the fat, just a pragmatic decision with no drama required. Why make something that is simple (difficult, but simple) into more than it is?

If this lady is advocating not hating your body, more power to her. That does not, however, mean that people need to accept being over weight.

Why is it okay for you to accept your balding head but not for someone to accept their overweight body? Overweight people can still be perfectly healthy.

If accepting being overweight makes someone happy and they are healthy, great. Mainstream medicine tells us that there is a strong correlation between being overweight and a huge range of health problems. I know that there are a couple of frequently cited studies disputing that relationship, but the couple of that I have read were very, very flawed. In my case, when I am heaver and not working out, my blood pressure goes up. If my choices were being overweight and having surgery, I would accept being overweight unless the health risks outweighed the risk of surgery. But, since my weight is something that I can control, I choose to do so. This is a purely pragmatic decision.

My point about hair loss was to say that I have to accept becoming bald (or consider surgery), but I don't have to accept being fat. Being overweight is not physiologically inevitable for the vast majority of people, but I think the message is being put out by some folks who advocate fat acceptance that it IS inevitable. I think that does a big disservice to a lot of people's health and happiness --- as does, of course, any message that people should feel shame for how their bodies look. I think it is a lot healthier to look at things more objectively and do what's healthiest and makes each person happiest.

My other larger point was just that I don't understand the drama --- why do we all have to choose between "loving" and "hating" our bodies? I don't love or hate my hairline --- it just is. I did not hate being fat, but I prefer being thinner --- especially since I can do sports with my kid more easily. Why did the person who wrote the Huffington Post piece care so much about what other people think of her body that she considered surgery to change it? The vast majority of us will never make a living with our looks, so who the hell cares?

Ok dude man, let me explain it to you like you were my 2 year old. The "drama" about women's weight is because society judges women harshly on their looks and weight. They don't even come close to doing the same thing for men. society also tells us women that our value resides chiefly in our looks and age - so when we age and start to lose our looks and figure, then drama may ensue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that I am kind of baffled by people feeling either hatred or love for their bodies. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I can't imagine looking in the mirror and considering surgery because parts of me were too big or too small. I'm developing a bald spot, which I don't love/accept/embrace, but I'm not considering hair plugs, and it won't prevent me from wearing my hair really short (which makes it more obvious) because short hair is convenient.

On the other hand, when I got up to about 35 pounds over a healthy weight, I decided to lose the extra weight. Now I think I look a lot better and my blood pressure is normal rather than borderline high. But this did not involve love or hate for the fat, just a pragmatic decision with no drama required. Why make something that is simple (difficult, but simple) into more than it is?

If this lady is advocating not hating your body, more power to her. That does not, however, mean that people need to accept being over weight.

Why is it okay for you to accept your balding head but not for someone to accept their overweight body? Overweight people can still be perfectly healthy.

If accepting being overweight makes someone happy and they are healthy, great. Mainstream medicine tells us that there is a strong correlation between being overweight and a huge range of health problems. I know that there are a couple of frequently cited studies disputing that relationship, but the couple of that I have read were very, very flawed. In my case, when I am heaver and not working out, my blood pressure goes up. If my choices were being overweight and having surgery, I would accept being overweight unless the health risks outweighed the risk of surgery. But, since my weight is something that I can control, I choose to do so. This is a purely pragmatic decision.

My point about hair loss was to say that I have to accept becoming bald (or consider surgery), but I don't have to accept being fat. Being overweight is not physiologically inevitable for the vast majority of people, but I think the message is being put out by some folks who advocate fat acceptance that it IS inevitable. I think that does a big disservice to a lot of people's health and happiness --- as does, of course, any message that people should feel shame for how their bodies look. I think it is a lot healthier to look at things more objectively and do what's healthiest and makes each person happiest.

My other larger point was just that I don't understand the drama --- why do we all have to choose between "loving" and "hating" our bodies? I don't love or hate my hairline --- it just is. I did not hate being fat, but I prefer being thinner --- especially since I can do sports with my kid more easily. Why did the person who wrote the Huffington Post piece care so much about what other people think of her body that she considered surgery to change it? The vast majority of us will never make a living with our looks, so who the hell cares?

Ok dude man, let me explain it to you like you were my 2 year old. The "drama" about women's weight is because society judges women harshly on their looks and weight. They don't even come close to doing the same thing for men. society also tells us women that our value resides chiefly in our looks and age - so when we age and start to lose our looks and figure, then drama may ensue.

Are you rude and sarcastic to your two year old, or do you just reserve that for well meaning, sincere strangers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that I am kind of baffled by people feeling either hatred or love for their bodies. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I can't imagine looking in the mirror and considering surgery because parts of me were too big or too small. I'm developing a bald spot, which I don't love/accept/embrace, but I'm not considering hair plugs, and it won't prevent me from wearing my hair really short (which makes it more obvious) because short hair is convenient.

On the other hand, when I got up to about 35 pounds over a healthy weight, I decided to lose the extra weight. Now I think I look a lot better and my blood pressure is normal rather than borderline high. But this did not involve love or hate for the fat, just a pragmatic decision with no drama required. Why make something that is simple (difficult, but simple) into more than it is?

If this lady is advocating not hating your body, more power to her. That does not, however, mean that people need to accept being over weight.

Why is it okay for you to accept your balding head but not for someone to accept their overweight body? Overweight people can still be perfectly healthy.

If accepting being overweight makes someone happy and they are healthy, great. Mainstream medicine tells us that there is a strong correlation between being overweight and a huge range of health problems. I know that there are a couple of frequently cited studies disputing that relationship, but the couple of that I have read were very, very flawed. In my case, when I am heaver and not working out, my blood pressure goes up. If my choices were being overweight and having surgery, I would accept being overweight unless the health risks outweighed the risk of surgery. But, since my weight is something that I can control, I choose to do so. This is a purely pragmatic decision.

My point about hair loss was to say that I have to accept becoming bald (or consider surgery), but I don't have to accept being fat. Being overweight is not physiologically inevitable for the vast majority of people, but I think the message is being put out by some folks who advocate fat acceptance that it IS inevitable. I think that does a big disservice to a lot of people's health and happiness --- as does, of course, any message that people should feel shame for how their bodies look. I think it is a lot healthier to look at things more objectively and do what's healthiest and makes each person happiest.

My other larger point was just that I don't understand the drama --- why do we all have to choose between "loving" and "hating" our bodies? I don't love or hate my hairline --- it just is. I did not hate being fat, but I prefer being thinner --- especially since I can do sports with my kid more easily. Why did the person who wrote the Huffington Post piece care so much about what other people think of her body that she considered surgery to change it? The vast majority of us will never make a living with our looks, so who the hell cares?

Ok dude man, let me explain it to you like you were my 2 year old. The "drama" about women's weight is because society judges women harshly on their looks and weight. They don't even come close to doing the same thing for men. society also tells us women that our value resides chiefly in our looks and age - so when we age and start to lose our looks and figure, then drama may ensue.

Are you rude and sarcastic to your two year old, or do you just reserve that for well meaning, sincere strangers?

well meaning, sincere strangers on the internet? what a weird world you live in.