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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to admit that I am kind of baffled by people feeling either hatred or love for their bodies.  Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I can't imagine looking in the mirror and considering surgery because parts of me were too big or too small.  I'm developing a bald spot, which I don't love/accept/embrace, but I'm not considering hair plugs, and it won't prevent me from wearing my hair really short (which makes it more obvious) because short hair is convenient.

On the other hand, when I got up to about 35 pounds over a healthy weight, I decided to lose the extra weight.  Now I think I look a lot better and my blood pressure is normal rather than borderline high.  But this did not involve love or hate for the fat, just a pragmatic decision with no drama required.  Why make something that is simple (difficult, but simple) into more than it is?

If this lady is advocating not hating your body, more power to her.  That does not, however, mean that people need to accept being over weight.[/quote]

Why is it okay for you to accept your balding head but not for someone to accept their overweight body? Overweight people can still be perfectly healthy.[/quote]

If accepting being overweight makes someone happy and they are healthy, great.  Mainstream medicine tells us that there is a strong correlation between being overweight and a huge range of health problems.  I know that there are a couple of frequently cited studies disputing that relationship, but the couple of that I have read were very, very flawed.  In my case, when I am heaver and not working out, my blood pressure goes up.  If my choices were being overweight and having surgery, I would accept being overweight unless the health risks outweighed the risk of surgery.  But, since my weight is something that I can control, I choose to do so.   This is a purely pragmatic decision.

My point about hair loss was to say that I have to accept becoming bald (or consider surgery), but I don't have to accept being fat.  Being overweight is not physiologically inevitable for the vast majority of people, but I think the message is being put out by some folks who advocate fat acceptance that it IS inevitable. I think that does a big disservice to a lot of people's health and happiness --- as does, of course, any message that people should feel shame for how their bodies look.  I think it is a lot healthier to look at things more objectively and do what's healthiest and makes each person happiest.

My other larger point was just that I don't understand the drama --- why do we all have to choose between "loving" and "hating" our bodies?  I don't love or hate my hairline --- it just is. I did not hate being fat, but I prefer being thinner --- especially since I can do sports with my kid more easily.  Why did the person who wrote the Huffington Post piece care so much about what other people think of her body that she considered surgery to change it?  The vast majority of us will never make a living with our looks, so who the hell cares?

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Ok dude man, let me explain it to you like you were my 2 year old. The "drama" about women's weight is because society judges women harshly on their looks and weight. They don't even come close to doing the same thing for men. society also tells us women that our value resides chiefly in our looks and age - so when we age and start to lose our looks and figure, then drama may ensue. [/quote]

Are you rude and sarcastic to your two year old, or do you just reserve that for well meaning, sincere strangers?[/quote]

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