OK-- another beach house room splitting (and cost splitting) question

[Anonymous]

And I think it would be really tacky for Family A to accept any money from Family B--they invited them as guests! Of course Family B should offer to take them to dinner, and bring along some bottles of wine, and do a grocery run, or etc., but absolutely they should not be chipping in for the house. Tacky.

[Anonymous]

If I were Family A and the master bedroom was big, I'd put my whole family in it. But we have twin air beds and had a travel crib.

We slept 9 to a house like that when I was a kid. My brother and I slept on a full matress that was stored under the queen bed in the master bedroom. My grandmother and great abut slept in another room in twin beds. My aunt and uncle slept in the 3rd bedroom. And my poor bachelor uncle slept on a cot in the living room.

[Anonymous]

I find the practice of cramming as many bodies in a beach house as possible revolting. My extended family routinely crames 18-20 people into a four bedroom beach house. This house is not huge and the kitchen gets disgusting.

I refuse to go once I had kids because I end up stress eating just to manage the level of chaos and disorder.

Oh, and several families bring their dogs and let them go to the bathroom on the deck.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't go; sounds too crowded.

[Anonymous]

Family A is renting the place and will be there longer so they should take the master bedroom and the kids room.

Family B gets the double room and the twins can sleep in the kids room with cousin or with parents (on an air mattress on the floor)

Family A should not accept 'rent' but family B should pick up the tab for all incidentals and expenses while there (groceries + any other expenses).

[Anonymous]

If I was Family A, it would depend on the 4 year old. Our 4 year old would not sleep somewhere new alone. Maybe with cousins or other kids, but not alone. In that case, we'd do all four of us in the master with a PNP and 4 year old in our bed or blow up (our 4 year old does not normally sleep with us but will when we travel - he will not sleep on a cot). I'd give Family B the upstairs. Or, if my 4 year old was ok, I'd put the 3 kids in the twin and take the upstairs bedroom to be closer to my 4 year old. I'd give family B parents the master.

If I invited, I would not expect payment but I think its nice to offer, especially if family A could use the help. If not pick up other stuff.

[Anonymous]

The other thing to consider is whether family A prefers to have the baby on the top floor (presumably quieter) or bottom floor (farther away).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically a beach house with 3 bedrooms is meant to be split between 10 or more people. We've always done it with an inflatable mattress or two.

I'd likely take the one bedroom with the double and then put an inflatable on the floor for the twins.

3 bedrooms for 10 people? Unh, no. Not in my lifetime.

No kidding! That is a lot of people to stuff into a 3 bedroom! We need 3 bedrooms just for our nuclear family of 5.

Even for very temporary times like a one week vacation?

My family must be SO low maintenance...we often fit all 6 of us in one room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically a beach house with 3 bedrooms is meant to be split between 10 or more people. We've always done it with an inflatable mattress or two.

I'd likely take the one bedroom with the double and then put an inflatable on the floor for the twins.

3 bedrooms for 10 people? Unh, no. Not in my lifetime.

No kidding! That is a lot of people to stuff into a 3 bedroom! We need 3 bedrooms just for our nuclear family of 5.

Even for very temporary times like a one week vacation?

My family must be SO low maintenance...we often fit all 6 of us in one room.

Nowhere outside of 3rd world countries (with beach houses) would this be considered "typical."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split the rooms and cost in this beach house scenario?

Family A: 2 adults, a 4 year old and a 3 month old infant. 4 year old currently does not share a room with the baby.
Family B: 2 adults, twin 7 year olds. 7 year olds share a room and the family generally is pretty flexible on sleeping arrangements (when they travel, they usually just get a single room with 2 double beds).

Three bedroom house: master with queen size bed on first floor; two bedrooms upstairs, one bedroom with 2 twin beds and one bedroom with a double bed.

Family A rented the house and invited Family B to join for a few days. Family B accepted and will stay for 3 days.
The house is on the pricey side. Family B has offered to chip in (Family A did not ask).

How would you allocate the rooms, and should Family A accept Family B's offer (and if so, how would you come up with an amount)?

Master with Queen: Family A with pack n play for three month old

Bedroom w/ twins: Add an aerobed and put twins and four year old here.

Bedroom w/ double: Parents of Family B

As for cost, well, Family A invited, so Family A needs to come up with the lion's share of the cost. If Family A truly meant for Family B not to pay when they invited Family B, graciously accept what Family B offers or just straight up say it's mean to be a gift and you'd be renting the house anyway (yes?) and let them pay for some meals.

I agree with this. If we need the other family to chip in, we would have arranged that up front before renting the house. If you invite after the fact you can't expect people to chip in, especially if they're only staying a few days. On the flip side though, family B should absolutely pick up groceries or treat to a meal out/takeout or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically a beach house with 3 bedrooms is meant to be split between 10 or more people. We've always done it with an inflatable mattress or two.

I'd likely take the one bedroom with the double and then put an inflatable on the floor for the twins.

3 bedrooms for 10 people? Unh, no. Not in my lifetime.

No kidding! That is a lot of people to stuff into a 3 bedroom! We need 3 bedrooms just for our nuclear family of 5.

Even for very temporary times like a one week vacation?

My family must be SO low maintenance...we often fit all 6 of us in one room.

Nowhere outside of 3rd world countries (with beach houses) would this be considered "typical."

Untrue. Most of America does it. But most of America only makes $50,000 a year. It may not be the norm right here, but this is not a 3rd world issue.

[Anonymous]

What will everyone do if it rains the entire time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split the rooms and cost in this beach house scenario?

Family A: 2 adults, a 4 year old and a 3 month old infant. 4 year old currently does not share a room with the baby.
Family B: 2 adults, twin 7 year olds. 7 year olds share a room and the family generally is pretty flexible on sleeping arrangements (when they travel, they usually just get a single room with 2 double beds).

Three bedroom house: master with queen size bed on first floor; two bedrooms upstairs, one bedroom with 2 twin beds and one bedroom with a double bed.

Family A rented the house and invited Family B to join for a few days. Family B accepted and will stay for 3 days.
The house is on the pricey side. Family B has offered to chip in (Family A did not ask).

How would you allocate the rooms, and should Family A accept Family B's offer (and if so, how would you come up with an amount)?

Master with Queen: Family A with pack n play for three month old

Bedroom w/ twins: Add an aerobed and put twins and four year old here.

Bedroom w/ double: Parents of Family B

As for cost, well, Family A invited, so Family A needs to come up with the lion's share of the cost. If Family A truly meant for Family B not to pay when they invited Family B, graciously accept what Family B offers or just straight up say it's mean to be a gift and you'd be renting the house anyway (yes?) and let them pay for some meals.

Perfect answer

[Anonymous]

Family A:
Comes day 1 and determines what works best for them.
I would be uncomfortable with my 4 YO on a different floor / or my infant in a different room. But for this family they get to decide as it is their vacation.

If they decide they want the master and 4 YO in a different room, during visit infant is in their room with in a pack and play and 3 children share bedroom with twin beds.

If they decide they want upstairs, during visit other family gets master.


Since other family offered to pay - I would make it a number that is a multiple of 50 and is between 25% and 30% of the cost of the week.

[Anonymous]

If I am expected to pay, I want a say in which house we rent before it is chosen. Otherwise I am just visiting "your" house.

I'm guessing Family B is getting 1 br for a "few" nights. Would not ask them to pay.