Can a marriage make you physically sick?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My spouse is emotionally abusive. Lately in our home, if there is any conflict, which usually happens every night if not more, I can feel my heart fluttering and sometimes my ears turning red. I dread going home after work. Sometimes I feel that if I do not get out, no matter how that affects our child, I am going to wind up in the cardiac ward.

Do you really think that your child is better off witnessing emotional abuse rather than having parents get a divorce? You should be more worried about what you're doing to your child than what your marriage is doing to you. You, at least, have a choice.. your child doesn't.

And my child also does not need a dead parent. Yup, I have thought this over and over - how can we afford two households? what would a divorce process be like? what would being unmarried do? It's not easy pulling the plug.

Bullshit. You can wind up dead whether you're married to him or not. Stop making excuses and develop a plan to get out. You've not once posted about what you think the effect of this abuse is doing to your child. You don't have to worry about affording two households - you only have to worry about your DC and yourself. You're convincing yourself it's too hard to 'pull the plug'. It's not, it's just easier to stay.