Schools that you'd send your son to, but wouldn't send your daughter to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dartmouth - should still be an all-male school.

I was going to say the exact same thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If a school is an unsafe, unhealthy environment for a woman then I would not send my son there either. College is still a formative time and he will inevitably absorb a little bit of whatever culture there is at school, and I wouldn't want him in an environment where women are objectified or worse. And, if it's unsafe for a woman, it's highly likely it's unsafe for a man too!

I sort of agree with regard to a culture that objectifies women, but when it comes to safety I'd be fine with my son in an urban low SES environment like Penn, USC, Chicago, but I would not want my daughter to be in an "urban fortress" http://la.streetsblog.org/2013/01/15/how-far-is-too-far-fortress-usc-and-the-struggle-to-keep-students-safe/
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/university-pennsylvania/1282601-how-safe-is-penn-s-campus.html

As a freshman I worked near UPenn and honestly anyone male or female could get shot there. Crime doesn't discriminate.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Yes, military academies. I wouldn't want my dd to be raped and then have people in power do nothing about it.[/quote]

That is about as ignorant as the idiots that say they wouldn't let their daughters join the military because of assault. Reality is your daughter is more likely to be assaulted at any college than in a military environment. Of course these things never happen at elite institutions. It is a risk in any environment full of jackass young adults drinking.

[Anonymous]

Comparing these assaults yo college "hook-ups" is just plain wrong.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/08/opinion/dowd-americas-military-injustice.html?hp&_r=1&

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Comparing these assaults yo college "hook-ups" is just plain wrong.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/08/opinion/dowd-americas-military-injustice.html?hp&_r=1&

Comparing college "hookups" to college rape is just plain stupid. Comparing an unwanted good game butt slap to rape is wrong, but that is how the military lumps everything into sexual assault.

[Anonymous]

Assault is everywhere. For my DD it is basically any CA school but especially southern CA. After growing up there I realized just how unhealthy that environment is for women. I left for college and was amazed at how wen weren't obsessed with their weight or brands of clothes. Moved back home after college but my entire way of thinking had changed. One my daughter was 3 we were out of there and haven't lo

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't send my son to Dartmouth either--the hazing culture is too intense.

[Anonymous]

Not different - son or daughter.

If they were going to be an outliner, I imagine they would have their reasons for choosing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, military academies. I wouldn't want my dd to be raped and then have people in power do nothing about it.

But you wouldn't mind your son being in that environment?

Not PP, but I wouldn’t be as worried about having DS in an environment such as that. Obviously, it would be a factor, but for a son there are a lot of benefits to a military academy. I think the environment is just too hostile for females. I have a similar attitude toward schools that promote fraternity centered social life where the girls become fodder for the fraternity boys. I’m not glad that such environments exist, but if it doesn’t impact my child directly I’d consider it a secondary factor. So, based on things I’ve heard and seen, I’d include the military academies along with schools like Dartmouth, Duke, Vanderbilt, USC and maybe even UVa in that category.

I agree. I would not send my D to any school that is heavily Greek and promotes a culture of stunted drunk males.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't send my DDs to any of the military colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, military academies. I wouldn't want my dd to be raped and then have people in power do nothing about it.

But you wouldn't mind your son being in that environment?

Not PP, but I wouldn’t be as worried about having DS in an environment such as that. Obviously, it would be a factor, but for a son there are a lot of benefits to a military academy. I think the environment is just too hostile for females. I have a similar attitude toward schools that promote fraternity centered social life where the girls become fodder for the fraternity boys. I’m not glad that such environments exist, but if it doesn’t impact my child directly I’d consider it a secondary factor. So, based on things I’ve heard and seen, I’d include the military academies along with schools like Dartmouth, Duke, Vanderbilt, USC and maybe even UVa in that category.

I agree. I would not send my D to any school that is heavily Greek and promotes a culture of stunted drunk males.

But you're OK with your son becoming a stunted drunk male?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, military academies. I wouldn't want my dd to be raped and then have people in power do nothing about it.

But you wouldn't mind your son being in that environment?

Not PP, but I wouldn’t be as worried about having DS in an environment such as that. Obviously, it would be a factor, but for a son there are a lot of benefits to a military academy. I think the environment is just too hostile for females. I have a similar attitude toward schools that promote fraternity centered social life where the girls become fodder for the fraternity boys. I’m not glad that such environments exist, but if it doesn’t impact my child directly I’d consider it a secondary factor. So, based on things I’ve heard and seen, I’d include the military academies along with schools like Dartmouth, Duke, Vanderbilt, USC and maybe even UVa in that category.

I agree. I would not send my D to any school that is heavily Greek and promotes a culture of stunted drunk males.

But you're OK with your son becoming a stunted drunk male?

Maybe just okay with DS being in a school with stunted male drunks. Her DS might stand out from the crowd if he wasn't one.

Many are missing the obvious point that a school where 30% of the males are jerks is toxic for a female! but necessarily bad for the 70% of males who aren't jerks.

[Anonymous]

I don't think Caltech has a healthy nvironment. I knew a woman who was a graduate student instructor there in the 90s, when the male female ratio was quite high. Since she was one of the few women faculty members that fermale undergrads encountered, a number of her students confided to her that they had been date-raped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, military academies. I wouldn't want my dd to be raped and then have people in power do nothing about it.

But you wouldn't mind your son being in that environment?

Not PP, but I wouldn’t be as worried about having DS in an environment such as that. Obviously, it would be a factor, but for a son there are a lot of benefits to a military academy. I think the environment is just too hostile for females. I have a similar attitude toward schools that promote fraternity centered social life where the girls become fodder for the fraternity boys. I’m not glad that such environments exist, but if it doesn’t impact my child directly I’d consider it a secondary factor. So, based on things I’ve heard and seen, I’d include the military academies along with schools like Dartmouth, Duke, Vanderbilt, USC and maybe even UVa in that category.

I agree. I would not send my D to any school that is heavily Greek and promotes a culture of stunted drunk males.

+1. Duke & Dartmouth come to mind. Oh and that is "rich, white, drunk males"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a school is an unsafe, unhealthy environment for a woman then I would not send my son there either. College is still a formative time and he will inevitably absorb a little bit of whatever culture there is at school, and I wouldn't want him in an environment where women are objectified or worse. And, if it's unsafe for a woman, it's highly likely it's unsafe for a man too!

I sort of agree with regard to a culture that objectifies women, but when it comes to safety I'd be fine with my son in an urban low SES environment like Penn, USC, Chicago, but I would not want my daughter to be in an "urban fortress" http://la.streetsblog.org/2013/01/15/how-far-is-too-far-fortress-usc-and-the-struggle-to-keep-students-safe/
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/university-pennsylvania/1282601-how-safe-is-penn-s-campus.html

As a freshman I worked near UPenn and honestly anyone male or female could get shot there. Crime doesn't discriminate.

I'd never send either my son or daughter to Temple, Drexel or Penn. Been there, felt unsafe.