Tell me about separating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well since a young child is involved here, I think it is best that her life is as unaffected as possible.

I highly suggest she remain in the home 100% as do you, her mother.
I think your husband should move out and get his own apartment or possibly move in w/a friend or roommate. He can come over and visit her and if things between you two are acrimonious, he can either take her out on outings, have her sleep at this house or you can leave the house.

As for filing papers, I am not sure what the benefits are for filing a legal separation. Perhaps it will enable you to qualify for some social services for your daughter, but am not sure. You may want to confer w/a social worker or attorney and find out.

Good luck.

What chauvinistic advice. OP is the one suggesting separate domiciles, let her move out. She is the one who is confused and needs to "sort out her thoughts", let her move out. Why should the husband be forced to leave his home and child? She can negotiate with him for visitation rights.

I'm a guy and agree with this advice. Whatever causes the least amount of disruption for the child is key. Even if my wife was a lying, cheating, shank, making sure my kids are in a safe, familiar environment would be my prime concern. They have a kindergardener.

[Anonymous]

If groceries and housekeeping are what stresses you out in light of a potential split that would leave a young child in a broken home, then you really do need therapy, and fast. Get that first, and then decide if moving out makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well since a young child is involved here, I think it is best that her life is as unaffected as possible.

I highly suggest she remain in the home 100% as do you, her mother.
I think your husband should move out and get his own apartment or possibly move in w/a friend or roommate. He can come over and visit her and if things between you two are acrimonious, he can either take her out on outings, have her sleep at this house or you can leave the house.

As for filing papers, I am not sure what the benefits are for filing a legal separation. Perhaps it will enable you to qualify for some social services for your daughter, but am not sure. You may want to confer w/a social worker or attorney and find out.

Good luck.

What chauvinistic advice. OP is the one suggesting separate domiciles, let her move out. She is the one who is confused and needs to "sort out her thoughts", let her move out. Why should the husband be forced to leave his home and child? She can negotiate with him for visitation rights.

I'm a guy and agree with this advice. Whatever causes the least amount of disruption for the child is key. Even if my wife was a lying, cheating, shank, making sure my kids are in a safe, familiar environment would be my prime concern. They have a kindergardener.

They both have full time jobs, so she is not a stay at home mom. She could just as easily exit as him and the child could stay in the house. What am I missing? So you want you kids to be primarily raised by a lying cheating skank instead of you? I am sure they will grow up with great values and not repeat her behavior.