Anyone making of 6-figure salary (combined or not) receiving financial aid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in the process of applying to alot of private schools, & am embarrassed about putting in a request for financial aid. Our household combined is a little of $200k, but with today's economy, the price tag on the private schools, plus our combined debt, we really could use the financial aid. We can still make the payments without it, but will definitely be a struggle.

Is anyone else in this situation? I'm just curious if anyone has actually been offered financial aid w/a reported income over 6 figures.

That you are embarrassed about putting in a request for financial aid is because you should be. That's a good thing. It means you're not completely shameless. This request reflects poorly on you, and be advised that it will reflect poorly on your DC, too.

First of all, who receives financial aid is NOT public information, so reflect badly to who?? So YOU BE ADVISED that you should actually THINK before you speak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in the process of applying to alot of private schools, & am embarrassed about putting in a request for financial aid. Our household combined is a little of $200k, but with today's economy, the price tag on the private schools, plus our combined debt, we really could use the financial aid. We can still make the payments without it, but will definitely be a struggle.

Is anyone else in this situation? I'm just curious if anyone has actually been offered financial aid w/a reported income over 6 figures.

That you are embarrassed about putting in a request for financial aid is because you should be. That's a good thing. It means you're not completely shameless. This request reflects poorly on you, and be advised that it will reflect poorly on your DC, too.

First of all, who receives financial aid is NOT public information, so reflect badly to who?? So YOU BE ADVISED that you should actually THINK before you speak.

Reflect poorly to the admissions/administrative staff who will be evaluating DC's application for admission. Not that I necessarily agree with this poster, but I'm pretty sure that's what s/he meant.

[Anonymous]

That your combined income is over 200K and you're still inclined to stick your hand out and grasp for freebies (when by your own admission you can make the payments) is shameful. There are families who are no doubt far more deserving of aid, and yet far too proud to be pushing others out of the way in their acquisitiveness as you do. Your sense of entitlement reflects poorly on you and your family's values and on the environment in which you're raising your child. The school's staff will notice and some will be appalled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That your combined income is over 200K and you're still inclined to stick your hand out and grasp for freebies (when by your own admission you can make the payments) is shameful. There are families who are no doubt far more deserving of aid, and yet far too proud to be pushing others out of the way in their acquisitiveness as you do. Your sense of entitlement reflects poorly on you and your family's values and on the environment in which you're raising your child. The school's staff will notice and some will be appalled.

I'm not the OP, but I find your response far more troubling and shameful than OP's question. How would you know OP's circumstances? She mentions debt--perhaps they have student loans or medical debt. Nominal income doesn't tell the whole story--that is why there are trained professional to assess aid requests. Who made you the arbiter of who is "no doubt far more deserving of aid"?? Gee, I guess you are better equipped to pass judgment on an anonymous board than the financial aid staff...

OP, ignore the harsh posters and ask. The worst they can say is no,, and it won't be held against you for asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The worst they can say is no,, and it won't be held against you for asking.

What makes you so sure?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The worst they can say is no,, and it won't be held against you for asking.

What makes you so sure?

Based on what all the schools say at their tours. Now, if someone is going to claim, regardless of their stated policies, that the schools are just saying that and that *really* they secretly have a conspiracy to hold it against people who request financial aid, then I can't help you, but what the schools say is that it is not held against one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That your combined income is over 200K and you're still inclined to stick your hand out and grasp for freebies (when by your own admission you can make the payments) is shameful. .

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That is the kind of families that they want. Admission is not for just any kind of people. The elites want fin aid people who get 5% discount on tuition.
Anything more than that and they risk attracting the wrong crowd

[Anonymous]

Our HHI is about $400k and private tuition makes it difficult to buy a vacation property.

Our HHI is about $300k and private tuition makes it difficult to live in a large house in NW DC.

Our HHI is about $200k and private tuition makes it difficult to save for college.

Our HHI is about $100k and private tuition makes it difficult to take a "real" vacation every year.

Our HHI is about $75k and private tuition makes it difficult to ... eat.

Which of the above situation deserve empathy? Maybe all of them. Which of the above situations move me to give money to school scholarship fund on top of private tuition I already pay -- only the last one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our HHI is about $400k and private tuition makes it difficult to buy a vacation property.

Our HHI is about $300k and private tuition makes it difficult to live in a large house in NW DC.

Our HHI is about $200k and private tuition makes it difficult to save for college.

Our HHI is about $100k and private tuition makes it difficult to take a "real" vacation every year.

Our HHI is about $75k and private tuition makes it difficult to ... eat.

Which of the above situation deserve empathy? Maybe all of them. Which of the above situations move me to give money to school scholarship fund on top of private tuition I already pay -- only the last one.

Agreed. If we really wanted to be surrounded by the "in between" families talked about ad nauseum on the other financial aid thread, we would have sent our DCs to public school.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/36478.page#241010

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our HHI is about $400k and private tuition makes it difficult to buy a vacation property.

Our HHI is about $300k and private tuition makes it difficult to live in a large house in NW DC.

Our HHI is about $200k and private tuition makes it difficult to save for college.

Our HHI is about $100k and private tuition makes it difficult to take a "real" vacation every year.

Our HHI is about $75k and private tuition makes it difficult to ... eat.

Which of the above situation deserve empathy? Maybe all of them. Which of the above situations move me to give money to school scholarship fund on top of private tuition I already pay -- only the last one.

Agreed. If we really wanted to be surrounded by the "in between" families talked about ad nauseum on the other financial aid thread, we would have sent our DCs to public school.

Hilarious--no, you want them to be surrounded by the mega-wealthy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our HHI is about $400k and private tuition makes it difficult to buy a vacation property.

Our HHI is about $300k and private tuition makes it difficult to live in a large house in NW DC.

Our HHI is about $200k and private tuition makes it difficult to save for college.

Our HHI is about $100k and private tuition makes it difficult to take a "real" vacation every year.

Our HHI is about $75k and private tuition makes it difficult to ... eat.

Which of the above situation deserve empathy? Maybe all of them. Which of the above situations move me to give money to school scholarship fund on top of private tuition I already pay -- only the last one.

Agreed. If we really wanted to be surrounded by the "in between" families talked about ad nauseum on the other financial aid thread, we would have sent our DCs to public school.

Hilarious--no, you want them to be surrounded by the mega-wealthy!

Why is that hilarious?

[Anonymous]

Surrounded by the mega-wealthy AND those who put a priority on good education over second homes, really large homes, extensive college savings, and fancy vacations. Also surrounded by those who are self-reliant except when need for assistance truly exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Surrounded by the mega-wealthy AND those who put a priority on good education over second homes, really large homes, extensive college savings, and fancy vacations. Also surrounded by those who are self-reliant except when need for assistance truly exists.

I get your point, but it is undermined when you put college savings in the same category as second homes and fancy vacations. And why in the world do you prefer to have your kids surrounded by the mega-wealthy and not the upper-middle-class? Seriously don't get that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Surrounded by the mega-wealthy AND those who put a priority on good education over second homes, really large homes, extensive college savings, and fancy vacations. Also surrounded by those who are self-reliant except when need for assistance truly exists.

I get your point, but it is undermined when you put college savings in the same category as second homes and fancy vacations. And why in the world do you prefer to have your kids surrounded by the mega-wealthy and not the upper-middle-class? Seriously don't get that.

Then you are missing the point of all this heated debate on the financial aid issue of late. It's partially a class issue. It's partially borne out of insecurity - why give a literal and figurative hand to those fast on the heels of our DCs. It's partially a view, masked in the argument of "self-reliance," that only those of the manor born deserve to be in the manor. It's partially a reflection of the view that the middle class is not value added, again in a literal and figurative senset - to the private school experience.