Have you ever hated your job so much you quit without a backup?

[Anonymous]

It is much harder to get a new job if you are unemployed. People wonder if you were fired/laid off and the job market is so saturated--why take a chance on you? Suck it up until you find something better, then take all your vacation leave . Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP - I'm an HR manager and my advice would be not to quit until you have some potential jobs lined up. I know the initial feedback has been great but one of my interests is studying the market - there are a lot more jobs opening up but there are plenty of qualifies candidates. I have had atleast 5 to 6 solid resumes (after weeding out and interviewing) for every open position. I prefer candidates who are working since they are current rather ban those who are out of work. Other Managers I know few the same about hiring employed candidates. Please try and make time before work to explore options if possible.

I hope you are not an HR Manager with offices in DC as considering a candidate's employment status is illegal. http://www.littler.com/publication-press/publication/district-columbia-first-nation-ban-discrimination-based-unemployment-s

I always considet and have even hired canidates who have been unemployed. I mean this when we have 5 or 6 stellar candidates and need to narrow down. At this point taking into considering that one candidate has current skills and is using those skills everyday is relevant vs somebody who may have to catch up on new and current stuff (e.g in the tech field) becomes relevant.

[Anonymous]

I started to look for work recently but no one is willing to interview after hours and taking time off during the work week is virtually impossible so I feel that I'm losing out on great opportunities

You are not thinking logically. If you hate the job so much you are thinking of quitting, go ahead and take time off to interview and let them be angry/think negatively about you for it. They're not going to be any less angry if you quit.

[Anonymous]

As others have said, use sick time/vacation time for your interviews. What are they going to do, fire you?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Not being able to take drs appointments or personal time off without a ten minute grief fest with my boss is one of the reasons I am leaving. I realize the irony in not even wanting to be here anymore and not caring if I lose my job and also not wanting to be a pest to my boss. If we are being extremely candid here, if I have to take one more lecture from her I am confident I will lose my mind, go off on her, and then I will have no references anymore. I'm usually a rational, professional person that gets along with every employer I've ever had but I'm at my breaking point. I just want out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife did. Best decision we ever made. My only regret is that we didn't do it earlier. Money doesn't matter compared with your mental health. You are not going to starve.

I used my "time off" to regroup like you would not believe. Had an overdue surgery before my insurance ran out, spent time on kiddo's handwriting, had a few things in the house spruced up, focused on cooking and family time, completed a slew of small projects, purged my house of clutter, mellowed out my mind. Got a position with a very intense workload and no drama about five months later.

I am in such a better place. Stress kills. If you have the great privilege of being able to remove yourself from a toxic situation, go for it!

[Anonymous]

I did. Both DH and I were infinitely happier and less stressed. Financially it was a disaster and we're still paying off the credit cards 4 years later, with no end in sight.

Say you have a doctor's appointment, do the interviews. Good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

If we are being extremely candid here, if I have to take one more lecture from her I am confident I will lose my mind, go off on her, and then I will have no references anymore.

Don't let that happen. I know you are frustrated, but control your emotions. If she gives you a lecture, all you can do is calmly say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, Betty, but I do have sick leave/personal leave as part of this job, and from time to time, life requires me to take some of it."

[Anonymous]

If you are so fed up you are willing to quit on the spot anyways, then can't you just interview during work hours…

Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

Planning my next vacation well in advance always makes me feel better. Of course, I'm so friggin busy working I don't have time to plan it, but try to find time.

[Anonymous]

My Dh did. His job was taking a huge mental and emotional toll on him. We had a little mony saved for it, but basically spent 6 months struggling and wracked up about 12k in credit card debt. It was hard, I wish he wouldn't have had to quit. He's found another better paying job that he loves thank God, so in the end it worked out.

[Anonymous]

Yep! I have! Twice!!! It just freed up my mental and emotional energy so much so that I could concentrate on the next job and the job search, without getting bogged down in the emotional mire of the old place.

The first time I was still single -- and I get a new job in a matter of weeks -- so that was great.

The second job I was married (about one year) and so had a bit more of a "safety net," so to speak, but honestly having another person (DH)'s expectations and hopes for me to get a new job, actually made it harder for me this time around. I still got another job quickly, though.

[Anonymous]

it really depends how long you think it would take you to find another job (and then multiply that by 2-3 times), and how long you could afford to go on one income.

If you can afford to go more than a year AND you could find a job in 2-3 months (more entry level position), I would say do it.

If you are a brain surgeon or you are 90% of your family's income (doesn't sound like you are), then don't.

[Anonymous]

Going back to a point made many times. Interview NOW, while you have a job and use paid time off to do so. Even if it requires a "lecture" from your boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going back to a point made many times. Interview NOW, while you have a job and use paid time off to do so. Even if it requires a "lecture" from your boss.

This isn't always that simple. My DH burned through his leave doing interviews. Plus lecture can turn into being fired.