My mom is so annoyed by everything I do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is the same. I can't tell her off because she's adept at turning confrontations into my fault, and I can't tell her to do things herself because she has a fine motor handicap. She fails to realize her handicap does not allow her to order people around!

So I limit contact. Only way.

Make fun of her fine motor handicap. That will shut the old bitch up.

Your on FIRE tonight.

[Anonymous]

At least she tells you what she's thinking directly, and you can respond to it. My mom calls up my siblings and complains about me and my kids. Then when we're together I can see looks of disapproval on her face, and she'll say things indirectly, trying to get me to respond the way she wants, but never comes out and says what she truly thinks. That way she can deny she was thinking it if I disagree.

[Anonymous]

I see a lot of mothers raised ungrateful rude and ugly mouthed daughters. You all will grow old and become that bitch too and I hope your kids write about you online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of mothers raised ungrateful rude and ugly mouthed daughters. You all will grow old and become that bitch too and I hope your kids write about you online.

Nope, my DH tells me he will let me know if I ever become too much like my mom. And my best friends too (who agree with me about how difficult a person she is.)

I already have a much more open relationship with my kids than my mom and I have ever had. I'm sure they'll laugh and complain about me for many things, but they know they can always talk to me about anything, that I take their complaints seriously and don't get defensive, that I'm not passive aggressive and won't try to guilt them, and that I can also laugh at myself and admit when I am wrong and be sincere about it. Plus I'm not a narcissist who needs adulation from my kids. I work hard not to be like my mother.