MIL boyfriend visiting in delivery room, post- partum

[Anonymous]

Something needed to be said. If you couldn't whisper to the MIL or SIL while hugging them hello "please get him out of here right now; i'll explain later" then your DH needed to be on top of who gets past the velvet rope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG. I did not want my MIL in the delivery room, let alone a boyfriend.

+1000 Wait until he starts playing grandpa role, compliments of MIL.

[Anonymous]

So why didn't you ask them to go wait I'm another room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were still in the delivery room three hrs after having birth?? Where did you deliver? Why were you half naked three hrs after delivery? Why were you worried about the fact that you were still bleeding? Most women bleed for a couple of weeks after delivery. I get the feeling that these are all excuses- that you didn't want anyone to visit. You should've used your big girl voice and said no visitors until the next day. This is all on you.

Angry posts like this confuse me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were still in the delivery room three hrs after having birth?? Where did you deliver? Why were you half naked three hrs after delivery? Why were you worried about the fact that you were still bleeding? Most women bleed for a couple of weeks after delivery. I get the feeling that these are all excuses- that you didn't want anyone to visit. You should've used your big girl voice and said no visitors until the next day. This is all on you.

+1

I don't believe you OP. Over the top dramatic. You said she could come. This is on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, I agree with how you feel. I think different women feel differently about visitors in the hospital after baby. I thought I would welcome friends to visit but once we got there and had baby in hand, I only wanted my mom and husband there. Nobody else. I declined any other visitors until we were settled at home.

However I think you have so many other things to think about right now, it seems strange to me that you are wasting time on this.

What she said

[Anonymous]

Op, I'm with you. I would have been horrified!

[Anonymous]

I think your feelings are valid. My mom called my dad and he came into the delivery room post partum. I had to lick him out when they got me out of bed. My dad doesn't need to see the bloody/poopy mess that was the towels under me. Plus, I was practically naked. Not appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. I did not want my MIL in the delivery room, let alone a boyfriend.

+1000 Wait until he starts playing grandpa role, compliments of MIL.

Apparently he already is, compliments of the OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would have hated that as well.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would have hated this too BUT I made it very clear to mother and MIL that we don't want visitors right away (they were coming from out of town, so it was easier to manage).

This is clearly very important to you, so I think you shoud've communicated your preferences to the inlaws. Their behavior isn't really out-of-line, they just have different boundaries than you. Different families are very different around these issues, many people LOVE having families in waiting room (or even in delivery room!) during delivery...crazy to me, but true...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this your first? This is the least obtrusive thing. My 3 year old busted into the toilet while I was taking a poop.

Well mils bf wasn't 3 yo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something needed to be said. If you couldn't whisper to the MIL or SIL while hugging them hello "please get him out of here right now; i'll explain later" then your DH needed to be on top of who gets past the velvet rope.

Agree! OP, your MIL and SIL should have checked with you first. Nobody in boyfriend/male in-law role needs to see you in that condition. Saggy boobs, sore/bleeding lady business, exhausted. Come on, people!

Congrats on your new baby!

[Anonymous]

You have a 2 week old baby. Your focus should be on:
--sleeping
--feeding baby
--sleeping
--eating and drinking water
--your 3 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were still in the delivery room three hrs after having birth?? Where did you deliver? Why were you half naked three hrs after delivery? Why were you worried about the fact that you were still bleeding? Most women bleed for a couple of weeks after delivery. I get the feeling that these are all excuses- that you didn't want anyone to visit. You should've used your big girl voice and said no visitors until the next day. This is all on you.

New poster here. You are one effed up dame.