Anyone else feel their kids don't really like them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My two boys (10 and 13) prefer hanging out with me vs. my wife.

I'm just as strict, but when it comes to getting them to do a chore or other unpleasant activity, I give commands (e.g., "no", "do the dishes, now please", "take out the trash") vs. my wife who goes on and on about everything (e.g., "now junior, that wasn't such a good idea was it? Don't do that or you'll cut off your hand", "you know, I've asked you 3 times to do the dishes today but you don't listen. If I have to ask you again, I'm going to get your father", "something smells, did you take out the trash?, Why not?, you really need to contribute more around the house, blah blah blah blah")

Thank you for this- another blah, blah mom. I need to learn to cut it off. Must be a hormonal, innate female thing; not saying all women do this but many.

[Anonymous]

2nd! I am blah blah blah also and needed to read that.

[Anonymous]

I read somewhere that the first 6 years it's all about mom, then next 6 they are all about dad, then the last 6 are all about themselves. I think this is coming true in my family...

[Anonymous]

I've got a 12 and 13 year old that have really disliked me for about 5years. I'm the disciplinarian, so I get the brunt of it while DH skates. They are smart kids though--when they get older they'll figure out that it's not as black and white "nice or strict" as they think it is.

[Anonymous]

My boys ages 10 & 12 like both us but I'm the favourite (mom). They are VERY affectionate.
Perhaps OP's kids are acting like teenagers already - maybe more mature?
Mine aren't at that stage yet.
Does OP show a lot of affection? Just wondering if that would help because I've always given a lot of hugs and kisses and they are very affectionate back. I still get mad at them and tell them off at times. Maybe try hugs every day?

[Anonymous]

^^ also I am the disciplinarian and that doesn't effect how much they love me. I get really strict at times - but still hugs every day. I didn't realize I was lucky that they 'like' me! I am very loving to them though, I think try the hugs and a compliment when something goes right.

[Anonymous]

My teen intermittently took lots of his anxiety out on me. I felt like a dumpster. He's a senior now, knows where he's going to college, and he's really happy and things are really good. Hang in there.