What is your biggest regret?

[Anonymous]

Staying too long with a bf who turned out to be gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reckless sexual choices that made me lose what little self respect I had to begin with.

+1

[Anonymous]

career choice.

[Anonymous]

Not learning a second language.f

[Anonymous]

Not studying abroad in college.

Also, buying that wonderful house in our previous town. We ended up moving for new jobs about 15 months after we bought the house, and it took our finances a while to recover from selling it for a loss.

[Anonymous]

I was a life coach for a while and had a very successful practice. I helped one client who I could tell from the get-go was disturbed. I stopped coaching several years ago but she stalked me online, found out about my friends and family, and posted schizophrenic/psychotic things about me that were almost sci-fi supernatural weird on several websites. One of these sites is notorious for personal slander and lives today on the internet. It's really embarrassing and I always wish I had never took her on as a client to begin with. I'm a single parent, raising kids on my own, and we all know potential employers and clients google. So far it hasn't hurt me professionally but it's made me very cautious, probably a bit paranoid, about meeting new people. To this day, I have no idea how I triggered her or why she became obsessed with me as I only consulted with her once and it was quite innocuous. She seemed obsessed with my appearance and personal history based on her posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not finishing college.

+1! I am working on completing my degree now, at age 34, while working full-time with a baby on the way. Not fun, and it is going to take forever.

[Anonymous]

Not calling my brother the night before he died. I was tired, and said to myself: "I'll call tomorrow."

[Anonymous]

I used to think my biggest regret was that we tried ART too many times before successfully moving on to adoption. I used to regret the time, money, and effect on my body, but then I realized that without having gone through that process, we wouldn't have ended up with our beautiful daughter. She would've been referred to another family. Though, I still do regret the money wasted...

My biggest regret now is not having taken the time to really enjoy or explore each of the places I've lived- both overseas and here in the US. I've let myself get bogged down in things that didn't matter in the long run and missed out on living in the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not finishing college.

+1! I am working on completing my degree now, at age 34, while working full-time with a baby on the way. Not fun, and it is going to take forever.

Good for you, I admire your determination. It definitely is NOT easy but well worth the effort. You can do it, hang in there.

[Anonymous]

like another poster, drinking too much in my 20s and early-mid 30s. i was also in the bar/club scene. also, going to the college i chose. i listened and relied too much mother on my mother, whom i love, but i've come to realize is deeply insecure and an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

I am 44 and I have none.

[Anonymous]

Going to college in my home city.
Not trying harder at work to build a career path instead of just a stable job.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the day, but I struggle with a lot of regrets.

Marrying my husband, who is nice but can't hold down a job.
Not having kids sooner.
Not following any passion and instead choosing a career for money.
Moving to DC.
Not taking a semester off of college when my dad died (he didn't want me to).
Losing too much weight and now feeling trapped in a pattern of disordered eating.
Losing my religion.

Thank goodness it is Friday or I could keep going...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Letting my parents talk me into going to a piddly regional college for the free ride when I had the credentials to get into any college of my choice. If I could do it again, I would not go there.

And I was the one who chose the fancy college and I'm swimming in student loan debt. We might get it paid off by the time my 4YO starts college. I often wish I would have gone to the state school like my parents advised.