The Difference between men and women
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Anonymous
Last night, I picked up the kids from school, went home and made supper. When DH got home, I told him that I was sick with a cold and went to bed. I slept from 7 pm to 7 am this morning. DH took care of everything. Sorry your marriage sucks, but you need to work it, not slam men. |
Anonymous
| Look, I bitch about my DH a lot--he's a slob, he doesn't cook, he's disorganized, can'tt remember the last time he cleaned more than dishes, and the burden of the household and finances and anything requiring organization fall on me. But....our kids get up early, sometimes damn early (this morning 5:30 am). DH gets up with them every single morning while I sleep until 6:45 during the week and 7:30 or 8 weekends. He's got strengths, weakness, and we've made various accommodations. Its not a gender thing. It sa person and marriage thing. |
Anonymous
| I used to focus on how my DH didn't really do much in the evenings except sit on the couch, while I'm cleaning the kitchen, folding laundry, getting kids through bedtime. Was very resentful! But then a friend of mine made a comparison like OP made - and I realized that in the mornings while my DH was giving our early-rising kids' breakfast, emptying the dishwasher, taking out the trash, etc I was sleeping until 7. He's a morning person and I'm a night person. We both have our lazy times and our productive times. If there isn't balance like that - then perhaps that needs to be discussed? |
Anonymous
See, in my house, DW sleeps every day past 9 a.m. while I feed children, check homework/backpacks/ write notes for playdates, fill out permission forms, shovel driveways, pack lunches, take out trash, change lightbulbs, sometimes while on a work conference call, and escort the children to the school bus. DW is a SAHM. Weekends are like this too. But, she does do laundry. |
Anonymous
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Your all being really harsh. OP seems to just be venting which is done a lot on DCUM so she shouldn't be slammed for it.
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Anonymous
are you new? of course you expose yourself to being slammed. why do you confuse DCUM as a place where it's acceptable to vent? |
Anonymous
OP, I feel your pain. That is why I am divorced now... Fast forward 5 years  and feeling so much better. My ex lives down the road and actually participates and helps out more than ever now. Taking out the sex and living together was what worked for us.
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Anonymous
You must be new here. |
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Anonymous
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Nope, not new here. DCUM is 'vent' central. Some vents get picked on, others don't. The 100's of vents regarding winter weather, in the middle of winter "*uck more snow, the schools system sucks ass, I can't take it anymore, we're never going to have summer vacation" threads do get old.
OP, vent away. My dh gets on my nerves sometimes too, just as I'm sure I get on his sometimes. We all get frustrated, be it spouses, weather, or frizzy hair. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like DH is pretty useless and a major sleepy head. Why are you staying with him? For the sake of being married? And please don't say for the kids because it seems like you and DH are serving as poor examples of what a good relationship should look like for your kids. |
Anonymous
You can't do anything about the weather, but you can talk to your husband. Oh well it's just the difference b/t men and women. |