Men and their mothers
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Anonymous
| 2-3 times a month. |
Anonymous
| Once a month or less. We probably see her 4 times per year, max. She lives 1 hour 45 minutes away. |
Anonymous
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Every day. Sometimes more than once. We Skype with her about 2x/month and see her every 3mo or so.
I talk to my mom just as often. We see my mom 2-3x/mo. It's generally not a problem, although we both have topics that we avoid discussing with them. They're not overbearing, we genuinely like talking and spending time with our moms. Hopefully DS will feel the same way when he's an adult 
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Anonymous
| Once a week or so, texts and emails as things come up. They have a great relationship. |
Anonymous
| I call my mom in California a couple of times a week. |
Anonymous
I usually talk to my mom almost every day...less lately. |
Anonymous
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Via email, maybe monthly. On the phone, never. See her every couple of years.
Clearly, they aren't close. |
Anonymous
This. And god forbid one of them isn't on the call, the one who missed will call back and want H to repeat, verbatim, what he said to the other. It drives me insane. Why can't the first just relay to the other any actually pertinent info? (Of which there is usually precious little.) |
Anonymous
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Once a week, sometimes more. They have a close relationship - she is a lovely lady.
I'm curious - for those who speak to their mother infrequently, is the relationship distant or strained? Was there dysfunction? I wonder this because I have a son and wonder what it will take to maintain closeness through the years. |
Anonymous
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My ex-MIL called several times an evening, and if I answered, would say "let me speak to him". No subject too mundane, even called every day on our honeymoon.
Notice I said "ex". What a relief to be rid of her (and him). |
Anonymous
I thought it was weird at first, but the reality is that's because I haven't spoken with my own mother in over a dozen years. Also, they are not obsessed with each other. I think DH may have sent her a couple of emails but other than that they didn't communicate during our honeymoon. When our babies were born she waited until we said to come visit and wasn't pushy at all. She is also equally as interested in my life as she is in DH's. When he's traveling she calls me to see how I'm holding up. While it's different from what I get from my own parents (no contact with mother, talk to father about once a month) it's actually kind of nice. She is genuinely interested in us. DH doesn't rush home for his mommytime or walk away from the dinner table at a restaurant to speak with her. |
Anonymous
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My husband speaks to his mother (and father) once a week - typical sunday night phone calls for the most part. We get together with them about once a month. Neither my husband or his mom are big talkers, so it's plenty for them. Sometimes I send her chatty emails with pictures of the kids to make up for what seems to me a lack of communication on DH's part (ditto with DH's grandma).
I probably only speak to my father every 2 weeks of so. We're very close, but he doesn't particularly like speaking on the phone, I have a lot of siblings so he doesn't have to depend on me to get his kid fix and he otherwise has a very active social life. If my mom was still alive I'm sure I'd speak to her more. |
Anonymous
Why? I talk to my mother and father at least every other day. |
Anonymous
| They talk about once a week. I remind him to call at some point every weekend. They get along great, my DH just doesn't like talking on the phone. Usually he'll call them, chat for a few minutes, then hand the phone over to me. |
Anonymous
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My DH talks to his mom 2-3 times a month, he isn't big into talking on the phone. My brother is just as bad. It's not that they aren't close at all, my Dh loves his mom for sure and so does my brother.
I talk to my mom daily and dad maybe 1-2 per month. |