I want to go home.

[Anonymous]

Go visit your family. Talk to your boss, ask him for leave due to family illnesses and visit.

Can you wife stay with your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did 5 years living near my spouse's parents and now we live near mine. We are both happy. And we are staying flexible in case there is another move too. It's nice to be near family and it's nice to take turns.

I love this. DH would never leave this area, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

You need to make the time to visit home. Like take a few four day weekends and just go. Find a cheap ticket somehow and do it asap. A few times. Life is about relationships. Wouldn't you rather spend your vacay time with close ones than at the beach or xmas?

[Anonymous]

OP here:

After posting and reading the responses I am happy to say I spoke with my wife and everything is all worked out. I'm heading back home for a visit.

I think I was so wrapped up in not wanting to "bother" my wife with my needs of wanting to go home that it began to consume me and it turned into not knowing what to do.

Someone asked how much of an effort has been put into making relationships here. I have done quite a bit, but for various reasons not much as worked. I'm hoping this will change once we relocate to a new area in the next few months.

Thank you for the responses. It took them to see what was really needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father was given a week to live the day before Thanksgiving. I made the trip home and called work on Friday to say I was taking FMLA until things were done. I spent a month at home. I felt so much better after having some time with my family. I couldn't have handled my dad dying and the weeks immediately following from so far away. You need to go back.

God bless you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

After posting and reading the responses I am happy to say I spoke with my wife and everything is all worked out. I'm heading back home for a visit.

I think I was so wrapped up in not wanting to "bother" my wife with my needs of wanting to go home that it began to consume me and it turned into not knowing what to do.

Someone asked how much of an effort has been put into making relationships here. I have done quite a bit, but for various reasons not much as worked. I'm hoping this will change once we relocate to a new area in the next few months.

Thank you for the responses. It took them to see what was really needed.

Ok OP divorce your wife and move with me back to the west coast. Just kidding, but seriously I could have written your post. Hope you find peace with your time at home.

[Anonymous]

Oh, good. Thanks for the update, OP. Safe travels!

[Anonymous]

OP ~ Get a grip

[Anonymous]

If you move back, you will be horribly -- destructively -- distressed by the plain fact that you cannot even remotely change the awful facts. Any of them. If you don't go at all, you will be horribly -- destructively -- distressed by not seeing your peeps and offering comfort. Go back for a long week and see everyone. That's all that you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband went to visit his family two days after Christmas and stayed 4 days. It was my idea. I told him he might not have another chance again so now was the time. My only request was he call me when he got there and call when he was ready to leave.

He needed to do that. You need to go see your family too.

This. My MIL is not going to be around much longer due to cancer that has spread. She lives 7 hours away. I send my husband up to help out. The only good thing is that his siblings still live near the mom so she has constant care. We pay for anything she wants to make her feel better.

+ 1. DH did this recently. And then he visited my parents for a day and flew for 11 hours to meet my younger brother for a day. I am floored.

I want him to do this again. Every year.

[Anonymous]

Safe travel OP. Give your family hugs.

And give your wife a hug too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

After posting and reading the responses I am happy to say I spoke with my wife and everything is all worked out. I'm heading back home for a visit.

I think I was so wrapped up in not wanting to "bother" my wife with my needs of wanting to go home that it began to consume me and it turned into not knowing what to do.

Someone asked how much of an effort has been put into making relationships here. I have done quite a bit, but for various reasons not much as worked. I'm hoping this will change once we relocate to a new area in the next few months.

Thank you for the responses. It took them to see what was really needed.

Ok OP divorce your wife and move with me back to the west coast. Just kidding, but seriously I could have written your post. Hope you find peace with your time at home.

I could have written this too! Let's make a happy hour of it